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Chapter 11: How To Get Women To Sleep With You
You have probably heard the saying "Mind over matter" – which means if you
believe you will succeed then you are more likely to succeed. So, you need
to think about what you want and how you are going to get it. Obviously,
you want to get an attractive woman into bed. To do this, you need to
figure out what a woman is looking for in a man before she’ll go to bed
with him. If you asked a woman what would get her into bed, she would deny
that such a thing, method, or technique existed. But as a man with the
knowledge, I’m here to share it! This chapter will reveal techniques for
getting a woman to sleep with you.
Throughout this entire book, and especially Chapter 3 What Women Want, you
have learned different ways to impress a woman. A woman who responds to
your flirting will likely respond to your sexual advances as well. Believe
it or not, women are looking for sex, too – you just need to let them play
the game with you. Let a woman think that she is leading the chase. Women
like control just as much as men do, so you have to go along with her. Let
her decide she wants to go to bed with you, and she will be more willing
to sleep with you. Give her what she wants, and she’ll return the favor.
Build Anticipation
It’s a well-known fact that women take longer to get "in the mood" than
men do. A stiff breeze will do it for a guy who is eager for action! But
women need more attention, more lead-time. You need to hint to her that
you are interested in taking your relationship to the next level, and let
her know you think she’s sexy and attractive. Show her lots of attention,
and be very touchy-feely with her. By giving a woman these reassurances
you make sure that she’s going to stick around and give you what you want
in return.
A great way to woo a woman, and to lead her to the bedroom, is to surprise
her with romance. This is especially effective if you don’t spoil her –
then she will appreciate it even more. When you surprise a woman with
romance, she feels flattered and appreciated. When a woman feels
appreciated she is more responsive to sexual advances.

Reassure Her
There are a few main fears that hold a woman back in a new relationship.
These fears are also a key for you to use to unlock a woman’s defensive
feelings. If you understand what these fears are, and you express your
knowledge of them to a woman, she will feel more secure being with you.
Read this section to gain an understanding into a woman’s hesitations to
going to bed with a man. You can alleviate her fear and anxiety and it
will make the transition into the bedroom more natural.
Ease a woman’s fears and you will
better your chances for success.
Am I sexy enough?
Am I good-looking enough?
Many women worry that they aren’t pretty enough, or sexy enough. This
low self-esteem issue is engrained into women from the day they are
born. Women are subjected to "perfect" models everyday in magazines,
advertisements, and TV. It’s no surprise many women have a complex. They
worry about their size, weight, shape, skin, imperfections, their
clothes, their hair, everything! As men, we don’t usually understand
that a woman needs reassurance to feel good about her self. To make her
feel more attractive around you, tell her what you love about her.
Compliment her on her eyes, her skin, her waist (granted she has a nice
one), her soft skin, or her hands or nails. You should avoid mentioning
her breasts, though, unless you absolutely love them. Women have a way
of taking any comment and turning into a negative one. Women are
especially paranoid about their breast size and shape when they are
getting undressed with a new guy. So, if you can’t say anything
genuinely nice, then don’t say anything.
Will he use protection?
This is a fear you should share, actually. There is always the risk of
pregnancy and STDs when you have sex with a woman. Use a condom. Every
time.
NO GLOVE, NO LOVE!
COVER YOUR STUMP BEFORE YOU HUMP!
DON'T BE SILLY, PROTECT YOUR WILLY!
USE A CONDOM!
GET IT?
In this day and age, there is the also the fear of the AIDS virus. It is
incurable right now. You don’t want to get infected with HIV just
because you refused to wear a condom. You should go out and buy new
condoms, even before the expiry date, to ensure freshness. Many women
will actually refuse to sleep with you if you don’t wear a condom. This
is not a rejection towards you; it is a rejection to her exposure to the
unknown. It is safe and good practice to always wear a condom. If the
woman you are with is easy to talk to, you should bring up the issue of
wearing a condom before the actual moment arises. This will not only put
her at ease, it will let her know it’s important to you. Her best
interests as well as yours are being protected.
Will he leave me?
Women get tied in emotionally when they enter the bedroom. Women tend to
worry more than men do about what will happen after sex. It is common for
a woman to think that a guy will use her and leave her. You need to
recognize that she might be feeling this way, so reassure her that you
aren’t going anywhere. Let her know she can count on you for support and
reassurance when she needs it. It is effective to talk about something in
the future that involves the two of you being together. Not marriage, of
course, but maybe a concert event, or plans for a few weeks away. Remind
her that you are there because you want to be, and that you like her
enough to spend your time with her.

Use Subliminal Messages
You want a woman to think about sex, especially when she is with you.
There is something to be said for subliminal messages. Plan your dialogue
to reflect your sexual desires. Use vocabulary that is associated with
feelings and sensations related to sex. For example, use words such as
‘hot’, ‘passionate’, or ‘delicious’ to describe a pasta dish or the colors
in her apartment. Use the word ‘climax’ when discussing a movie or music.
You can use the power of suggestion to create sexual feelings within a
woman’s subconscious. Try to use words that you know she will associate
with feelings of sexual desire.
By using sexual language you can put a woman into a receptive state of
mind, she will actually think of and visualize having sex with you. Be
careful not to be obvious or offensive when interjecting suggestive words
or phrases. If you are going to actually discuss sex, you should be sure
not to assume you’ll be having sex with this woman. Start off by talking
about something sexual you might come across - the hot, steamy scene in a
movie you are watching, or an article in a magazine you have read. Open up
her mind to the idea of sex. Using this technique effectively will work
magic the next time you are trying to persuade a woman into bed.

When and How to Kiss
Kissing is often under-rated by men. However, women consider kissing a key
factor to getting her into bed. Kissing a woman heightens her physical
response to smell, taste, and touch. When you kiss a woman you aren’t just
getting her to kiss you back, you are getting her physically ready to have
sex. This is especially true for women who have experienced great sex. Her
body knows what could be in store, and the sexual expectation makes her
want to sleep with you even more!
Knowing when to make your move is very important. You don’t want her to
reject you, and you don’t want to have an uncomfortable moment if you try
to kiss her lips and she turns her head. A really good indication that a
woman is ready to be kissed is if she looks right into your eyes, without
saying anything. She will look expectantly at you, and she’ll smile. If
she remains silent, and holds her gaze, then you know it’s time to plant
your lips on hers.
To start kissing a woman,
you simply have to initiate a kiss on her lips.
A woman’s response will create the natural interaction that makes kissing
so exciting. The first kiss might not be smooth and natural, but don’t let
it stop you from proceeding with your persuasion. Kiss her cheeks, her
neck, and her collarbone. Put your hand on her lower cheek and look into
her eyes. Kiss her softly at first, to build the sexual energy between
you.
Excite her, and yourself,
with the anticipation of more.
When you are kissing a woman, be sure to match her style of kissing. You
don’t want to push your tongue down her throat if she is interlocking
lips. When your kisses start getting longer, then you can start French
kissing with small, short tongue movements into her mouth. Once she
follows your lead, and responds with tongue movements of her own, you can
get more passionate. The intensity of her kissing will also indicate her
interest in getting more physical than you are already. To keep the mood
romantic and sexual, be sure to keep your kisses slobber-free, and avoid
bad breath. Have a mint or gum after dinner if you need to.
By kissing a woman, you identify that you are in a relationship with her.
It tells her that you want to be with her, which gives her a sense of
security. This is an important step towards moving your relationship into
the bedroom. She will be more willing to become intimate with you if she
feels safe and secure with you.

Pick Up On Her Cues
With all this talk about ways for men to imply sexual desire, we should
mention that women often do the same.
Women use methods of suggestion that are different from ours, so men often
don’t pick up on them.
Women seem to have a sixth sense when it comes to sex. They know – they
can feel – when the time is right to take a relationship to the next
level. If you can pick up on her interest to go to bed with you then you
are more perceptive than most men. Often, men lose out on opportunities to
get laid because they don’t know when to make their move. You can look for
her signals as invitations to advance sexually. Observe how she acts
physically around you. The list below contains signals to help you
determine when the time is right.

If she sits, stands, and/or walks very near to you.
She wants to kiss you a lot.
She talks about sex – either in general, or specifically about having
sex with you.
She invites you into her apartment, or she invites herself into yours,
at the end of a date.
She sets the mood for sex – lighting, music, and candles.
She cuddles with you during a movie, or while hanging out on the couch.
She hints about being able to spend more time with you – maybe she has a
day off, or she looks forward to the weekend.
She kisses you deeply and passionately and doesn’t end the kissing.
These cues are all intended to let you know that she is ready to become
more intimate with you. Keep these things in mind when you go out with a
woman to see if you can pick up on her subtle communications. Once you can
read her signals, you will always know the right time to kiss her, to
undress her, and to take her to bed.

The Morning After
A woman will become more vulnerable once you have sex with her, so it is
important for you to show her respect. When women go to bed, they take
their emotions with them. Be sure to reassure her emotionally. Tell her
you had a really good time with her, and that you can’t wait for the next
sleepover. Offer her breakfast, or if you have no other obligations,
suggest you spend the morning (and afternoon?) in bed. This will give the
woman you are with confidence that you want to keep seeing her. She will
know that you aren’t going anywhere. By offering reassurance, you show her
that this relationship means something to you, and she knows it is heading
in the right direction.
Authors Final Word

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Chapter 10: How To Create Sexual Chemistry
Sexual chemistry is a mutual sexual attraction between two people. It is
every man’s desire to have a mutual lustful connection with a beautiful
woman. The important word here is mutual. If the attraction is one-sided
then there is no chemistry – simple as that. This is why you must learn
how to create sexual chemistry with a woman and make her feel attracted to
you.
Once you are interacting with a woman it is important to focus on creating
chemistry between you to ensure that you will get positive reactions from
this woman. Despite common belief that you have no control over how much a
woman is attracted to you, this isn’t the case at all. In fact, you can
learn to generate sexual chemistry with a woman you desire. You will soon
see how you can manipulate yourself to create certain feelings in her and
how to use those feelings to generate sexual chemistry. This chapter will
show you how to recognize, create and use sexual chemistry with any woman
you meet.
Read and study this chapter carefully and you will learn how to generate
sexual chemistry just as you would learn to play golf – with a good
foundation, and enough practice, you’ll be hitting a hole-in-one every
time!
The Theory of Likeness
Despite the saying "opposites attract" a women usually wants men who are
like themselves. This means that you have to make a woman feel that you
understand her, and that you are on the same wavelength. You can make a
woman feel that relate well to her by acting the same way. When a woman
senses this rapport she will be more attracted to you and she will want to
explore her attraction further. Women enjoy being around people who are
similar to her.
Most men think that a woman’s sexual attraction to a man is based
primarily on physical aspects – looks, charm, sparkly eyes – but verbal
communication plays a big part in this as well. When you are conversing
with a woman it is important to be agreeable and to emphasize your
similarities. Point out shared qualities and shared beliefs. Try not to
disagree with her, and never point out how you are different.
Allow a woman to see all the commonalities and she will
allow herself to become more connected to you.
The purpose of making a woman see your similarities is to create a feeling
of likeness for her. Once she realizes that you have definite dating
potential in her near future she will be compelled to like you. She will
be drawn in by your connectivity and she will want to get to know you
better.
Create a Connection
You want a woman to feel connected to you, because then she will trust you
and be more willing to say "Yes" when you ask her out, or for her number.
For a woman to feel connected, you have to create a feeling of likeness
with her, as discussed above. You need to know a few key tools to use when
creating chemistry with a woman. The following are techniques you can use
to tap into a woman’s subconscious. None of these techniques should be
obvious to her, but she’ll sense a greater connection to you if you use
them effectively.
Technique 1: Use Your Physical Appearance
Any woman you are interested in will have a definite style that she
dresses by. Your goal is to match her style by dressing in a similar
fashion – this could be sporty, casual, professional, or trendy. If you
have your eye on a particular woman, you should try to reflect her
appearance. A woman will notice men who are portraying an image similar to
her own. If you are interested in a type of woman different from those you
have dated previously, maybe it’s time that you take a look at yourself
and change your image. Project the image you desire and you will attract
women with that image.
Another aspect of your physical appearance is your body condition. Do you
want to date a woman who works out regularly? Chances are a woman who
works out will look for that same quality in a man. If you want to date,
or just sleep with, a toned and firm woman then you should be sure to
maintain your own physique. Are you less active, and you have
"love-handles" on your waist? Be sure to keep your expectations realistic
when looking for a woman to be with.

Technique 2: Use Verbal Communication
The most helpful way to determine a woman’s mood is to listen to her
voice. The easiest way to reflect her mood is to use match your verbal
communication. You not only need to listen to what she is saying, but also
to how she says things. Traits to observe and imitate in a woman’s voice
include her tone, volume and pace. Listen to a woman’s voice and reflect
it to create a feeling of likeness with her.
You need to match your voice to hers. A woman will instinctively feel more
comfortable with you when you talk on her level, whatever that may be. If
she is mellow and relaxed then you should speak slowly and softly. If a
woman is bubbly and excited then you should speak a little louder, and
with an up beat pace. You should follow her lead, but don’t be too obvious
that you are copying her.
Another part of verbal communication is what she is saying. Really listen
to what she says and listen for frequently used vocabulary. Try to use the
same words or phrases in your responses. She will unlikely notice your
efforts to talk the same, but her subconscious will pick up on the
similarities.
Technique 3: Use Your Body Language
I have already discussed how to use and interpret body language to
initiate interest in Chapter 7. This section isn’t quite so intense. At
this point, you are already talking to the woman you are interested in so
you aren’t as concerned about interpreting her body language as you are
imitating it. You should learn to mirror her body’s motions and her
gestures to create a sense of similarity.
Reflecting her body language includes most physical gestures and
movements. You should use your hands similarly and you should face the
same direction with your body. If she is leaning over the table you are
sitting at, then you should also be leaning over the table. If she is
leaning against a wall or the bar, then you should do the same. Follow her
gestures and body positioning to build a better rapport with her. When you
are talking to her, and she leans her head, or she puts her weight to one
side, then you should subtly imitate her movements. Try not to draw
attention to the fact that you are copying her body language. She might
notice that you are acting the same, but as long as it isn’t glaringly
obvious, it shouldn’t offend her. She may even be flattered!
Matching her physical behavior will
enhance her connection to you.
Once you start using this technique, and you physically move the same as
the woman you are with, you will notice that you interact more smoothly.
She will feel connected to you and she’ll want to be around you.
Likeness -> Connection -> Attraction -> Sexual Chemistry -> Success!
This chapter opens up infinite doors for success with women. All you need
to do is learn these basic techniques and use them effectively. Once you
master the tricks of creating a connection with a woman, the sexual
chemistry will follow shortly. The final step of seducing a woman (and the
next step after sexual chemistry!) is to act on the mutual sexual
attraction, and is described in Chapter 12 How to Get Women to Sleep With
You.

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Chapter 9: How To Get And Execute A Date
Once you start a conversation with a woman, you need to get her vitals.
(You know all about getting her vitals from Chapter 8.) The most important
piece of information to get is a means of future communication. You need
to be able to get in touch with this woman to set up a date with her!
Usually this means her number, either work or home. You can also consider
asking for her email address, her location of work, or any other
information that will help you contact her again soon. You will call her
or visit her at work, or go to the same café that she frequents in hopes
of seeing her. For the purposes of our discussions, I will primarily refer
to her means of contact as her phone number.
To give out personal information, a woman needs to see a possible future
with you. You need to impress this woman, talk to her and ask for her
number. Once you get her number you have to know how to handle the phone
call, the first date, and any subsequent dates. This chapter will help you
make as few mistakes as possible when getting and executing a date. If you
can master the art of getting a telephone number, then you are on the
right track to getting all the women you could ever want!
Basic Considerations
Before you start walking up to women and asking them out, there are a few
things you should know first. Here are some basic considerations to keep
in mind when asking for a number, calling a woman, and asking her out for
a date. These concerns are often overlooked because men don’t often
consider these important points. This section will also address concerns
that come up during the dating process. Take a good read through this
material and make sure you don’t make any of the avoidable mistakes.
Prove You Are Trustworthy
Before a woman gives out her number to any man, she must be able to trust
him. You should try to reassure her that you a normal, honest, hardworking
guy who is worthy of her trust. Always offer your name in your
introduction, and ask hers if she doesn’t offer it in her immediate reply.
Try to use her name in the next couple of sentences to show her that you
are courteous and attentive.
In your conversation, allude to your stable job, your involvement in a
local sports team, or your family values if possible. You could tell her
that you are exhausted from your soccer practice last night, or invite her
out to a game on the weekend. Tell her you were visiting your parents on
the weekend. Say anything (with some truth to it!) that will portray you
as a sound, stable man. You want her to see you as a man worth getting to
know – responsible, legitimate, and trustworthy. Reassure her that you are
a decent guy before you ask for her number, so she is sure to agree.
Use a Business Card
An excellent way to establish credibility right away is to offer a woman
your business card. This indicates stability and it is a way for her to
verify what you tell her. If you tell her that you work in the same
building, then present your business card, you establish trust. She will
know right away if you are being honest. A business card is a little
classier, too, when writing down a woman’s number. You will never again
have to dig through your pockets or your wallet looking for a scrap piece
of paper. If you don’t already have a business card, get some made up. If
you don’t have a job that warrants a card, you can always make up a
humorous occupation, like Lion Tamer or Breakfast Chef. This could be a
great conversation piece, and you could have some fun with it if you
wanted.
Get Her Number, Even if She Has Yours
Despite the fact that you have given a woman your card, you should always
try to get her number. It comes back to the whole initiation thing… she
might never call you if you give her your number, but you will surely make
the first move to call her. You really want to go out with this woman, so
you want to ensure you’ll have the chance to set up a date with her. Get
her number.
Be Confident in Your Approach
When it comes right down to asking for her number, always be self-assured
and direct. Being direct also helps with your credibility. You don’t want
to be shy when you make your move. Prove to her that you know what you
want, and that what you want is to take her out. Use simple,
straightforward language, make eye contact, and tell her you want to see
her again.
When to Contact Her
You really want to talk to this woman again, but you don’t want to seem
too eager. The best time to call a woman is when you said you would call
her. If you did not tell her when you would call her, then the best time
to call a woman is within 3 days after getting her number. It might freak
her out if you called a woman within twenty-four hours. Don’t call the
very next day, unless you had plans to talk. You want to wait another day
for good measure, and then call her after a few days. So, if you met a
woman on Friday or Saturday night, then you would probably call her on
Tuesday. Waiting a full week is usually too long, and a woman will take
this as a sign of disinterest. You want her to know that you are
interested, but not desperate.
When you decide to call, you want her to answer. If you have her work
number, be sure to call during her work hours, and not at lunchtime. You
want to have the best chance to get her on the line. If you have her home
number, try to call when she will be home. Be careful not to call too
early or too late, though. You don’t want to wake her up. You want her to
be in a good mood when you talk to her, so do not annoy her by calling at
some odd hour.
If you phone a woman and you have to leave a message, either on her
voicemail or with a roommate, be sure to keep your message brief. Leave
your name and when you are calling, and say you will call her back. You
don’t want to leave a detailed message because then you are relying on her
getting the information. If you don’t leave your number, you won’t expect
her to call you back. This way, there is no waiting game, and you simply
call her again. Always call a woman when you say you will call her to
demonstrate reliability.
Making the Call
When you do finally make the call, and you have her on the line, what are
you going to say? What are your goals of this phone call? It doesn’t take
much time to make a few notes to your-self before hand. Write down what
you want to say to her before you call her. It helps to have a guideline
for your conversation, especially if you get flustered and aren’t sure
what to say next. You should already have an idea for a date before you
call. Allow room for compromise but always have a good suggestion to start
from.
When you decide to pick up the phone to call a woman, you want to make
sure that you won’t be distracted. You want to be able to give her your
undivided attention. Make sure the TV, roommates, or other background
commotion won’t distract you. Go into a private room and then dial her
number. When she answers, make sure the first thing you do is say who you
are. Don’t expect a woman to recognize your voice right away. Say your
name, then don’t hesitate to remind her where you met. Once you are beyond
introductions, make sure that you aren’t interrupting her. You already
know that she wants to talk to you, because she gave you her number, so
make sure that it is a good time for her. You don’t want to call during
her favorite television program, or while she’s eating dinner, and have
her feeling rushed to get off the phone. You want her to be relaxed so you
can have a nice, casual conversation.
Once you re-establish your connection, and make small talk, you want to
stick to your goals of this phone call. You need to ask her out on a date.
When you ask her, be direct and enthusiastic. The best way to ask out a
woman is to suggest an activity. Don’t get her to commit to a time just
yet – you want to see if she is okay with the idea first. Suggest going
for a hike, or for coffee, and ask her when she would like to meet to do
this. You don’t want to be overbearing or bossy. Give the woman some
control so she will have a better feeling about going out with you. Ask
her how she would feel about meeting for coffee, or ask her if she would
be interested in checking out a new restaurant in town for lunch on the
weekend.
Once she accepts your invitation, the two of you can work out a mutual
time to meet. Don’t be offended if it’s not right away. Remember that this
woman has her own life, and she may be very busy. Once you agree when you
will go out, be sure to figure out when and where you will meet. If you
agree to pick her up, you should always phone before you leave to make
sure you know where she lives. If you plan to meet somewhere, it doesn’t
hurt to call earlier that day to confirm the place and time. This will
show her that you are looking forward to your date and that you will be
there on time.
By this point, your conversational goals should be attained. You have
talked to her, you have got her thinking about you, and you have got a
commitment for a date. This is the time to wrap up the phone call; you
don’t want to drag out this first conversation. Save the
getting-to-know-each-other talk for when you are together. Maintain
control of the situation and let her know you have to get going, but that
you are really looking forward to your date.
Your First Date
This is the first real opportunity to get to know this woman. You want to
be involved in a casual and fun activity that allows interaction with her.
You want to find out if she is someone you’d like to go out with again.
She will be figuring out that same thing, so you want to be yourself.
Don’t be overly emotional, or romantic. At this point you want to be cute,
and allude to your willingness to get involved. Don’t pick her up in a
limo and present her with a dozen roses, dinner at an expensive restaurant
and a serenaded dance in the moonlight. This only works in the movies. In
real life it would likely scare a woman away.
Don’t go overboard or spend too much money on the first date.
Use this date to feel the connection between you. This is when you are
building a relationship with her. You want to find out more about this
woman and what you have in common. You need to relax and be comfortable
around her and evaluate her potential. Decide if you want to see her
again, or if one date is enough with this woman. You don’t want to waste
time and money taking out a woman that you don’t want or won’t have fun
with.
If you are really interested in this woman, then you can work on building
sexual chemistry (see Chapter 11), however, for your first date you don’t
want to be too forward with your sexual interest. You want to flirt with
her, and give her attention, but you don’t want to offend her with sexual
advances! If you really like her, show her through subtle gestures like
putting your hand on her back while she walks slightly ahead of you, or by
giving her shoulder massage. Just take the time to check her out.
Do not pressure a woman to become sexual too soon.
If you are looking for a one-night stand then you should probably change
your approach and your expectations. All good things come to those who
wait; this is true for the good women, too. You have to understand that a
woman with morals and/or values will want to trust a man and get to know
him before going to bed with him.
Where to Go on a Date
An active approach to the first date usually works well for personal
interaction and comfort levels. If you are both having fun then you’ll
both be more receptive to the other person. The better time you have with
her on the first date, the more time she will want to spend with you in
the future. This section suggests a few great first date places, but you
are by no means bound by or limited to these activities. The more fun you
can have creating an awesome date the better. The woman you are interested
in will notice any effort you make to ensure a fun time.
Go for coffee. This suggestion is a trendy pick-up line in itself. It is a
date, but it isn’t formal. You both can be relaxed and you will be in a
familiar environment. You can go to a restaurant, a café, or a popular
coffee shop. It’s a great opportunity to talk and get to know each other
with high comfort levels. You want a woman to feel at ease around you.
Another good thing about meeting for coffee is the opportunity to continue
your date. If you are both having a really good time, you can suggest
another activity like going for a walk.
Go out for drinks. This is also a pretty common first date activity. It
usually means a later date, likely after dinner, and the setting can be a
little more intimate. Though this sounds silly, going for drinks on a
first date is a good way to relax and open up. Consuming alcohol usually
allows people to feel less reserved, so a few drinks can make for a more
personal converstion. Careful not to get drunk though, or you may lose you
inhibitions all together and make a fool of yourself. Usually 2-3 drinks
is a pretty good time limit for your date. Also, ending your date before
you get drunk will ensure a safe drive home.
There are many variations to going for drinks depending on what you both
want out of this date. A quieter environment is better for talking, but if
you want to go out dancing then a nightclub is more appealing. Figure out
what would suit you both before you decide where you will go for drinks.
Getting active. This type of date is usually pretty fun and interactive.
You can suggest any activity that you are both familiar with, like hiking
or in-line skating. Or you can suggest trying something new, like indoor
rock climbing. This can be fun and exciting, and the thrill of trying
something new together will create a stronger bond. An active date is
really good for relaxing the mind, because you focus on what you are doing
and you tend to be less nervous about the person you are with.
Go sightseeing. Have you ever gone to the local monument building? The
museum? The zoo? These activities can be a great way to explore your own
city, and have fun at the same time. These dates are usually more casual
and free flowing. There is less anxiety, because you will be in a public
place, and there will be lots to see and talk about.
Whichever kind of date you suggest, be sure to incorporate personal
decisions. Try to avoid "movie dates" at the beginning, as you don’t get
much chance to talk. Dinner dates can sometimes be a bad choice as well,
because they often cost more and the time obligation is significant,
especially if you find that this woman isn’t what you want.
Your Second Date
Provided you liked her enough to ask for a second date, now is the time to
turn on the charm and to start really showing your interest. The second
date is usually when the sexual chemistry starts to build and the
attraction grows. This date should be more intimate and romantic. Don’t be
hesitant to spend money on the second date; after all, you already know
you like her. A nice, simple way to show your interest is to show up with
a single flower. Or, if you know a personal tidbit about her, show her you
pay attention by bringing her something personal. If she mentioned that
she has a dog, take her a couple of doggie biscuits when you pick her up.
No woman can resist thoughtful gestures like that!
You want to impress her with your good conversation and listening skills.
You want her to feel appreciated and desired. Good manners are important
at this point. You want to be respectful and make her feel like a
princess. Open her car door first, allow her to enter the restaurant
first, let her sit down first, and pick up the tab. Yes, I said pick up
the tab. At this point, unless you have discussed going "dutch" prior to
the date, you should pay the bill. Your willingness to expend time and
money indicates your definite interest in a woman.
The end of the second date should be romantic as well. If you are driving
her home, be sure to get out and walk her to her door. When you say
goodnight there will probably be a little anxiety for both of you. If the
mood is right, and she is looking at you, you should give her a goodnight
kiss. If you kiss her on the lips, it should only be lips – no tongue.
Press your lips against hers and kiss once. Then slowly pull away and
smile at her. At this point follow her lead. If she offers no lead, then
say goodnight and tell her you will call her tomorrow. If you do not think
she is ready, at least kiss her cheek or her hand. This will let her know
that you are definitely interested.
Your Third Date
If you have gotten a third date with a woman, chances are good that she
wants to take your relationship further. This is the date that will
determine your future with this woman. One of three things will happen:
you will start kissing her, and take her to bed; you will kiss and make
out a lot but won’t have sex; or you will make an advance to kiss her and
she will turn you down. If she turns you down, then you know you’ll never
go out with her again romantically. If you take her to bed on the third
date, then you definitely know where you stand. Hopefully she will want to
explore this sexual relationship further. If she returns your sexual
advances, and you kiss and make out, then you know that taking her to bed
is just around the corner. You may have to wait a few more dates, but as
you already know, good things come to those who wait.
Most women will actually expect you to
kiss her by the third date.
The pretense for this date is like the second date, but you should ensure
more intimacy. If you go out together, make her feel special, show her a
good time, and pick up the tab again. If you went out for dinner on your
second date, and you want something a little more intimate, then a great
way to romance a woman is to make her dinner at your place. Or, if you
aren’t a great cook, then you could suggest you order in. If she agrees to
go to your place, either for a movie or for dinner, then she should be
more than receptive to your advances.
Make sure your place is clean and inviting. Charm her and romance her as
you cuddle on the couch waiting for dinner. Or you could eat out, and then
go to your place to watch a movie. The transition from dating to sleeping
together is much more natural if a woman is already at your place.
Summing Up the Dating Experience
Once you get her number, you have to initiate setting up a date. Make sure
you go out and have fun while getting to know each other. The more you
like a woman, the more you should impress her on the second date. Decide
by the end of the second date if she is what you’re looking for. Reserve
the third date for intimate romance, and take the opportunity to express
your sexual interest. It is perfectly acceptable for you to kiss a woman
on the third date.
After the third date, you should be getting more intimate with a woman if
you haven’t already. The next chapter will show you how to make a woman
more attracted to you, and then you will move into Chapter 12 How to Get
Woman to Sleep With You.

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Chapter 8: How To Successfully Approach Women
Approaching women doesn’t have to be difficult. You might think that there
are a million different things to know about your approach, but that isn’t
the case. It is true that there are many different situations where you
could approach a woman but these situations share a number of factors. It
is possible to break down all the possible ways to approach women into a
few basic techniques. This chapter describes these approach techniques, as
well as other considerations to keep in mind when trying to pick up a
woman.
Recognize the Opportunity
It’s been said before – anytime and anywhere is the right time and the
right place to meet a woman. You are surrounded by endless opportunities
to approach women; you just need to see them all! Each time you notice an
attractive woman crossing your path, be aware that this may be the only
time you’ll ever see her.
You must initiate a conversation, build a trustful connection, and get her
vitals!
If you want to see a woman again, you have to act quickly on the
situation. Learn to recognize all the opportunities how to take advantage
of them. You will learn how easy it is to turn a brief encounter into a
telephone number and a date.
Icebreakers and Success Makers
The best icebreaker is saying "Hi" with a smile. Simple, yet true. Once
you start a conversation, you should say something that will encourage
further response from her. The next line should be a statement or a
question that shows interest in her. You could compliment her, or comment
on something she is wearing or carrying. Whatever your approach, it will
likely fall into one of four basic approach techniques. These techniques
are defined below for you to learn and practice. Adapt these suggestions
to your personal style, and do what you feel comfortable with. Use these
techniques together or separately to get the success you want.
1. Use a Compliment
Every woman needs to feel appreciated. An honest compliment is an easy way
to show your appreciation for her and the care she takes to look good.
Compliment her outfit, her hair, her eyes, or her manicured fingernails –
something specific about her that you are attracted to. A compliment can
work great for opening conversation with a woman as long as you put some
thought into it. You do not want to sound cheesy or pre-rehearsed. You
also don’t want to give her a compliment that she may have already heard.
Get creative and personal with your compliments.
Use something that she is doing or wearing
to personalize the compliment.
When you see a woman you want to talk to, look at her carefully. Notice
something about her that you like, and tell her what you like about it. Be
truthful when you compliment her – women can sense sincerity.
When you are figuring out what to say as a compliment you should think of
these three structures: use an analogy, follow a compliment with a
question, or ask her about what she does. When making an analogy try to
compare her to another object. Tell her that her lips or her eyes remind
you of something. Or, tell her that the blue in her shirt brings out her
eyes. If you are going to follow a compliment with a question notice
something about her and figure out if there is anything that you might
like to know. For example, if she is wearing a St. Christopher is she
religious? If she is wearing a unique ring ask her if she picked it out,
or if it is an heirloom.
The third structure is to compliment what she does. If you meet her in her
workplace, and she is doing a phenomenal job, then tell her you are
impressed. If she works with children or she volunteers somewhere tell her
that you admire the time she spends helping others.
It is important to notice something about her, and
not to use a general come-on line.
No matter what type of compliment you decide to give her, be sure to
personalize it. It helps to memorize a few generic lines and tailor them
to the woman you are talking to at the time.
2. Use a Conversation Piece
This type of comment or question involves observing her, and her
possessions and drawing a conclusion – correct or incorrect, it doesn’t
matter – and using it to start a conversation with a woman. Always look at
the woman you are interested in to see if she is wearing or carrying
anything you could comment on. This could be a book, a briefcase, a gym
bag, a shopping bag, or anything! Use this object to strike up a
conversation. Ask which gym she works out at, or if she would recommend
the book she is reading. If she is sporting a company logo ask how she is
affiliated with that company. If she is wearing a unique piece of jewelry
ask her about it. Is it an heirloom? What stone is it? If you meet a woman
in your office building and she is carrying a briefcase, or papers, then
ask her if she works in the building.
Using a conversation piece as an icebreaker can be very effective and can
be used anywhere. It is especially good if you briefly meet a woman, as
you can adapt it to any location. If you keep probing her for information,
and time runs out, then you have the opportunity to ask her to lunch. Ask
for her number, or give her your card.
3. Discuss the Situation
Another aspect to consider is where you are, or the event you are both
attending. Using location to open a conversation is already personalized
because you are both in the same place. If it is a party, you can always
talk about someone else – maybe there is one very drunk guy who is making
a fool of himself. Laughing at other people seems to be a great way to
bond.
Use a comment about the current situation to call attention to the fact
that you are both "here now!" If you refer back to the list of places and
activities given in Chapter 5 Where Women Can Be Found, you will notice
that the middle column is a list of places that would indicate a common
interest. If you are both at a sports event, comment on the game. If you
are at an Art Gallery, point out that you both like the same painting.
Meeting a woman at a place such as those listed is a suitable situation to
point out that you share an interest.
If you are in a situation where you don’t know anyone, and you see a woman
you’d really like to meet then walk over to her. Be honest about your
attraction. Tell her that you want to meet her, but you don’t know anyone
to introduce you. Then introduce yourself and start a conversation. You
have nothing to lose by introducing yourself to a woman. Once you start
the conversation keep in mind your objective to get her vitals and then
ask questions to get the information you need.
4. Ask Her a General Question
Tried, tested, and trued. This technique is a simple, effective way to
engage in conversation with an attractive woman. Look at the woman you
want to talk to and ask her any question – from "Do you have the time?" to
"How do you like the snow?" (Weather permitting, of course!) It is better
to ask a good question to which you might actually need the answer. You
could ask her where a certain restaurant is, or how to find the nearest
bank. Any kind of question could be used to approach a woman, but the more
you can relate it to the situation, the better off you’ll be. You can
combine this technique with any other and it will be even more effective.
You can use questions as general or as specific as you like.
You don’t have to be a smooth talker to get a woman to respond with this
approach. Even if you don’t actually need the information, asking a
question will open the door to further communication.
Summarizing Your Approach
Whichever approach you use, remember to personalize your approach. Women
want to feel appreciated, so pay attention. When you personalize a comment
or a question, she’ll take note of your attentiveness and she will
hopefully accept your invitation to chat. Once you break the ice with a
woman, you need to get her phone number to ensure future communication.
Chapter 10 How to Get and Execute a Date will explore in depth the next
steps of dating.

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Chapter 7: How To Talk With Women
Now that you have learned how to use non-verbal language to attract,
approach, and seduce women it is time to figure out how to talk with
women. When talking with a woman, you want her to feel a connection with
you. A woman wants a man to understand what she is saying, and men want a
woman to feel at ease with him. These two things go hand in hand. If a
woman feels that you understand her, she will feel more comfortable and
she will be more likely to be receptive to your advances and go out with
you.
This chapter is all about the spoken language. Once you’ve mastered the
material in this chapter, your actions or words will never be
misinterpreted again. You’ll learn the basics to having a successful
conversation with any woman. You will learn what to say and what not to
say, and a few general principles to keep in mind when talking to a woman.
Your Goal
There is one main reason you are talking to this woman – the chance you
will get sexual with her. Maybe you want a relationship, maybe a one-night
stand, but ultimately you want sex. You aren’t talking to her because you
really want to learn more about her or carry on a conversation.
You are using conversation as a way to get closer to
your goal of establishing an intimate relationship with her.
Women gauge their relationships on how well they relate to that person. If
you want to relate with a woman you have to create emotional involvement.
Of course, for you, conversation is a way to get more information about
her. But for women it is more about how she interacts with you, and how
you make her feel. It is important get along well with her if you want to
see her again. This means a lot to a woman. Talk about what you like and
dislike, ask her questions, and answer her questions. Offer your personal
opinions as well. This will make her feel closer to you and she will move
to a more personal conversation.
It is useful to try to attach a feeling to the facts she reveals to you.
For example, ask her how she feels about her work, or, if you see her at
the gym, tell her how much you admire that she takes care of her body. Tie
in your feelings with the situation and/or any facts she gives you.
Remember, the more comfortable you make her feel by understanding her, and
showing emotion, the better chance you have of seeing her again. You need
to use this conversation to build the foundation for a possible
relationship with this woman.
The main goal of this conversation is to become personally involved with
this woman and to get certain information from her. You need to get three
vital pieces of information if you want to see her again.
Get Her Vitals
Before we discuss how to talk to women, let us talk about what the
conversation should get us. When you first meet a woman, there are three
pieces of personal information you must get from her. The whole basis of
your relationship depends on getting this information. Success or failure
at this task will determine whether or not you will see her again. You
must make it your priority to get this vital information when talking to a
woman that you have just met and that you’re interested in. Focus on these
three very important pieces of information.
Vital Fact #1: Her Name
When you introduce yourself to her, ask for her name right away. Be sure
to use her name in the next couple of sentences. Women appreciate a guy
who actually pays attention, and using her name will show her that you are
interested in her. Repeating her name back to her is also a good way for
you to remember it, and to make sure you heard her correctly. The more you
pay attention to a woman, the more she will like you.
Vital Fact #2: A Common Thread
You need to ask her a couple of questions to get more information about
her. Find a way for the two of you to be connected. This might be a common
interest, a mutual friend, or the same favorite drink. You want to use
this common factor to relate to her, and you want to give her a reason to
trust you.
Vital Fact #3: Her Number
Before the conversation comes to an end, you must make sure you have a way
to get in touch with her. This usually means her phone number. Or, ask for
her email address. In this day and age there aren’t too many people that
don’t have email either at home or at work. You will learn more about
getting her number in Chapter 10 How to Get and Execute a Date.
Know these three pieces of information, and make it your priority to get
them from every woman you are interested in.
The Basics
Now that you know about getting a woman’s vitals, you need to know how to
talk to her. This can be harder than it sounds. When you try to compare
the way men talk to each other and the way women talk to each other it’s
like comparing apples and oranges.
Men talk facts, women talk feelings.
If you want to talk the same language as women then you need to express
emotion when you talk. Inherently, men aren’t very good at this, and that
is why the first thing you should do in a conversation is listen to her.
You need to listen to her and relate to her conversation. Ask questions
about what she is telling you, and involve yourself in her future. You
need to learn how to share personal experiences with a woman to create an
intimate connection.
Listen
The first thing you want to do while having a conversation with a woman is
to listen. Too often, men ramble on about themselves leaving their date
bored and feeling ignored. You want your date to open up, to share
personal feelings and opinions, and to establish a trustful relationship
with you. When a man listens to a woman, and really pays attention to what
she is saying, she feels that he is genuinely interested in her for her,
not just for her body.
Women want a man to show genuine interest in her
life, her opinions,and her contributions to the conversation.
Women don’t want a self-absorbed guy who only talks about himself, and who
is just trying to get into her pants. Of course, this can be your ultimate
goal; you just need to play it cool with a woman in the beginning, until
she feels an emotional connection with you. Reassure her that you are
listening by nodding at her and by making verbal comments such as
"uh-huh," "yeah," and "oh really." Once a woman feels that you understand
her, and you want to know all about her, she will relax and become more
inclined to go to bed with you.
Show Interest and Ask Questions
When you are listening to a woman speak, you need to reassure her that you
understand what she is saying. Use positive verbal comments, as I have
outlined above, and be attentive.
Involve yourself in the conversation and demonstrate your interest.
Ask questions about what she is telling you. You want to ask her What? and
How? questions to get more information from her. You mustn’t ask her Why?
questions, though, as it will put her on the defensive and she may feel
threatened. You don’t want to lose all the ground you’ve made so far by
asking her an offensive question. Get background information about her:
Did she grow up in this city? Where did she go to school? What brought her
to this city, if she has moved here? Ask her about her work, what she
likes about her work.
If she is telling you about a current situation or a problem she is
having, ask her questions about how she feels, how she might deal with her
situation, or what she has done so far to solve the problem. Show some
interest and be involved in the conversation and you will surely impress
her.
What NOT to Say
When you first meet a woman, you want to give her your best impression.
When you read Chapter 3 What Women Want you learned the importance of a
good first impression. This is when you want to portray your most
attractive qualities. You don’t want to be rude, obnoxious, or degrading
in front of a woman you are interested in. Do not talk about old
girlfriends, do not make rude or sexual comments, and don’t criticize her
or put her down. A woman won’t respond well to a man who is rude to her.
The fastest way to get rejected is to give a woman no attention or to give
her negative attention. She needs to feel relaxed and open around a man if
she is going to go out with him.
Remember that you want to get along with a woman you are interested in.
You need her to feel comfortable around you. If she is feeling threatened
or insulted she will not be open to your advances. Never insult her,
belittle her, or hurt her. This may sound obvious, but never ever do these
things if you want to keep talking to a woman. If you insult her, she will
immediately form a negative opinion of you and become defensive. Your
chances with her are non-existent if you don’t show her respect.
Never look for pity love. Don’t tell her a sob story about how your dog is
sick, or about how you just got dumped. Women don’t respect a man who
looks for pity love. In her eyes, you are trying to use an unfortunate
circumstance to get into her bed. Women have no patience for this
behavior. Women also don’t have patience for pick-up lines like "Do you
come here often?" A woman wants to feel that you are interested in her,
not just any woman.
In addition, you should never say negative things about yourself. Use this
time to show her all you have to offer. You want her to be attracted to
you. Never verbalize submission – don’t apologize, don’t whine, don’t
complain, and don’t criticize yourself or what you do. If she asks you
what you do for a living, never say, "Oh, I’m just a _____." By using the
word "just" you are telling her that you aren’t proud of what you do. She
will get the impression that you lack confidence, and she will see this as
a negative characteristic. You have to be relaxed and confident when you
talk to a woman. You want her to see your positive traits so that she will
be interested in getting to know you better.
Remember That…
Every time you engage in a conversation with a new prospect, you will be
trying to get her vitals. You also need to find out if she is actually
single, and if she is looking to meet someone. Most women will give you an
honest answer if you ask her if she is single. You also should use
comments in the conversation to clearly indicate that you are single. You
don’t want to waste your time on a girl who isn’t looking for the same
thing as you are. If she keeps talking to you, she is probably interested
in you. However, watch out for women who are just out to boost their egos
by leading on guys. These women enjoy the thrill of the chase but they
have no intentions on following through on their actions. It is often
difficult to spot these women, but here are a few clues to watch for: she
is wearing a wedding ring; she seems to be flirting with and picking up
several men in a short time; her gestures are flirty but not sexual; or
she refuses to give her number when you ask.
During a conversation you need to balance asking questions and sharing
information. Listen and pay attention to what she tells you, and be sure
share your interests, passions and goals with her. You want to show this
woman that you are sensitive and caring. It’s okay to appear vulnerable if
it will help you get a woman into bed.
It is natural to feel anxious when talking to an attractive woman for the
first time. Just behave the way you would during your first day at a new
job – listen, smile and be agreeable. If you are nervous it is better to
tell her you are nervous than to continually fidget with your straw or a
napkin. Don’t be afraid to use comedy to ease tension. If you stumble on
your words, make a joke about being so nervous around her that you can’t
even talk. Just try to laugh it off.
When you meet a woman and are trying to have a good conversation with her,
allow it to flow naturally. Don’t try to steer the conversation too soon.
Just relax and enjoy talking to the woman in front of you. If you try to
rush the conversation you may appear desperate, in which case you won’t
get her number. You want to project confidence and have fun.
Be sure of yourself, relax and have fun and show your interest.

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Chapter 6: How To Use Power And Suggestion Of Body Language
The man with the greatest chance for success with a woman is a man who can
attract her, approach her, and seduce her by using both verbal and
non-verbal language. This chapter is all about body language – yours and
hers. You need to know how your body language influences her reactions and
opinions toward you. You need to know how to get the results you want by
telling her what you want before you approach her. You’ll learn what
impression you can give her and how you can convey your intentions to her
by using simple gestures.
You’ll also learn how to pick out the women that will be the most
responsive to your efforts. You want to minimize your chances of
rejection. In this chapter you will find out how to spot the women that
want to be picked up and those tat want to be left alone. You will learn
how to use body language to communicate with women. You will soon learn
how to read a woman’s movements and reactions to determine what she’s
thinking and how she feels.
Body language is the most powerful and effective communication tool when
meeting women. You must become fully aware of body language and use it to
your advantage. Once you read through this chapter your chance for success
will increase as you begin to see the clues women give you through their
body language. Using this valuable information, your time and effort will
no longer be wasted on women who cannot or will not give you what you
desire.
Use Your Body Language Effectively
This is called Flirting. Flirting is extremely important when
communicating with women that you intend to pick up. Everyone can flirt,
but not all can flirt successfully. You will soon be able to flirt with
women and achieve great results! This chapter is full of suggestions for
effective flirting.
To become an expert at flirting you need practice, practice and more
practice.
There are many women out there eager to flirt with men. You may not see
yourself with all of them, but you should still use them to practice your
techniques! Practice making women smile; practice talking to women;
practice being funny and charming; practice new lines; practice asking for
her phone number. You should especially practice reading women – approach
them to compare their reactions to what you expected. Every time you are
right about a woman’s thoughts you will become more of an expert at
reading women. You will become more confident and, when it comes time to
flirt with a woman you really want to date or sleep with, you’ll be ready.
Personal Space
You have to set the stage for exchanging body language with a woman. The
best way to do this is it to position yourself within reasonable proximity
to her. Once you see a woman you are interested in you should turn to face
her. Make sure that you are in her line of vision, so that you can easily
exchange glances. You want her to see you. As soon as she sees you, start
flirting with her.
Women, too, use their personal space to flirt with you. If a woman is
particularly close to you – less than an arm’s length away – then she is
probably interested in you. Always assume she is interested, at which
point begin flirting with her. A woman will likely position herself near
you if she is interested.
When a woman sees a man she wants to meet, she will find a way to be
physically closer to him.
Have you ever noticed a woman who keeps appearing in your general
vicinity? No coincidence. Women have their own ways of getting closer to
men. She may slowly move closer to you; she may approach the bar at the
same time hoping to talk to you; she may "accidentally" bump into you; she
may touch your arm or your waist to make her way past you in a busy
nightclub; she may even brush her breasts up against you. This behavior is
sending the message that she wants to meet you.
Women almost always will tour the room and pass by any man she is
interested in more than once. She will look at you and look away – then
look again to see if you are still looking. This is a telltale sign that
she is interested. Men often don’t notice such subtle gestures. Keep
reading to learn more about her body language.
Every time you walk into a room, you should notice women, and where they
are. Keep your eyes open to see who is checking you out, and watch which
women move closer to you. These are the women that are interested in you,
and they will be more likely to accept your advances.
Make Eye Contact
If you see a woman you are interested in, the first thing you do is become
visible to her, then you want to make eye contact. Look into her eyes. Eye
contact, especially the first glance, can say a lot about your feelings
for a woman. Women can sense your intentions when she looks into your
eyes. Women are very good at reading a person’s eyes, so it is important
to be genuine. Allow her to see the real you; you’ll be more attractive if
you are being yourself. Be sure to look right into her eyes. Don’t look
her up and down like a piece of meat you just want to have sex with; look
at her. If you create chemistry (as discussed later in Chapter 11) she
will feel the connection right away.
Always try to make eye contact with any woman you are interested in.
Show her that you are serious about wanting to meet her and talk to her.
If you catch her eyes across the room, hold your gaze until she looks
away. You should never be the one to look away, and never look down.
Looking down is a sign of submission – that is what you want her to do! If
you look away you send messages of fear, or lack of interest. You want her
to know you are strong, confident and assertive. Hold eye contact with her
for an extended gaze. If she refuses to look away, give her a little wink
and a smile. When you are holding eye contact with a woman, and you feel
the tension building, don’t break down and look away. Force yourself to
keep looking deep into her eyes. By maintaining your gaze you are creating
sexual chemistry! Once the woman looks away then you should also look
away. Frequently scan her line of vision to see if she is looking back at
you, and see if she will make direct eye contact with you again. If a
woman is interested in you, she will let you know.
Extended eye contact is a good indication that she wants to meet you.
If she continues to look right at you, then you know she is interested.
She is inviting you over with her eyes. A woman with such confidence is
one to be extra secure around. She knows what she wants, and tonight she
wants you.
When you decide to approach a woman you want her to see you as a
self-assured man whom she could easily be with. Walk right up to her
without looking away. To engage a conversation, you should politely
introduce yourself and flatter her with a sincere compliment. She will
surely smile in response, or say thank you, and then you ask her name and
make conversation. You will learn just what to say in Chapter 8 How to
Talk With Women. Once you know her name, be sure to use it often so as not
to forget it.
Smile
A great smile will tell a woman a lot about you: you are sociable, you are
friendly, and you are happy. Smiling is easy and effective with women. It
will put a woman at ease, and she won’t feel threatened by you. When you
smile at a woman you are sending her the message that you have noticed her
and she should know that you are interested in her. If a woman smiles at
you, she is sending that same message. Always return a woman’s smile – it
tells her you are friendly, easy-going and approachable. When you make eye
contact with a woman, you must follow it up with a smile. If you don’t,
she may see you as angry, stupid, or a jerk! You might be trying to "keep
your cool" by maintaining a straight face, but women don’t want that – a
woman wants a friendly, approachable guy to smile at her and to give her a
sign of approval.
Smile at a woman to tell her you are interested.
Smiling at her and making eye contact with her will tell a woman you are
attracted to her. If a woman returns both gestures – eye contact and
smiling – you know you made an impression. You will have a pretty good
chance for success as she has already given you the approval to approach
her.
It is important to smile to women, and it is just as important to smile
while interacting with friends and strangers. If a woman is watching you,
and sees your positive manner, she’ll see you as a guy who knows how to
have a great time. A woman will notice you laughing and enjoying yourself.
She will see you as a guy who would be fun to go out and spend time with.
If you don’t have a confident smile, practice every day in front of the
mirror, or just smile at all the people you make contact with through out
the day. You will quickly feel great about your smile, and the reactions
you get from being friendly.
Reading Her Body Language
When reading a woman’s body language, be sure to consider all body
movements, facial expressions and even her verbal communication to other
people. Women are not very good at hiding their feelings. Their feelings
are expressed obviously, provided you can read what her body language is
saying. Women always convey what they are feeling through a series of
gestures. You need to be able to recognize these gestures and interpret
them to find out her thoughts, feelings, or motives. There are two key
forms of body positioning – open and closed. Open describes a woman who is
open to advancement. She will respond positively if you approach her.
Closed, on the other hand, indicates that the woman is on the defensive.
She is withdrawing from the situation; she may be unhappy; she may be
tired and wants to go home. Women with closed body language should
probably be avoided, unless you want a challenge.
Body Position – Standing
When a woman is standing, and she is open to advancement, she will often
stand with her legs slightly apart. Her arms could be by her side, on her
hips, or one hand will be holding a drink. She will be relaxed and her
movements will flow smoothly. These are all good indications of openness
to advancement.
A woman who is approachable will usually keep her hands showing –
indicating she has nothing to hide. A receptive woman will not have her
hands in her pockets, or her arms crossed. If a woman is standing with her
arms crossed she is demonstrating a closed body position. She is feeling
defensive and her arms pose as a physical barrier to anyone approaching.
Body Position – Sitting
When a woman is sitting with just her legs crossed, and her arms resting
on her lap, or on the arm rests, she is expressing an open body position.
She may have crossed her legs to be sexy – to show off more of her thigh
and to express invitation. If she is holding her knee and leaning forward,
she is showing interest. If she turns her body towards the person beside
her, she is definitely showing interest in that person.
When a woman is seated with her legs crossed AND her arms crossed – walk
away. She is not in a receptive body position. Wait until she relaxes.
Otherwise, she will probably be a very difficult woman to open up. Another
defensive position is when she tightly holds her hands on her lap, and her
ankles are crossed.
Obvious Flirting Behavior
Even if you aren’t very good at reading body positions, you can’t go wrong
if you notice some or all of the following behavior:

She may tilt her head to one side, or looks at you then looks down,
which indicates submission;
She may run her fingers through her hair;
She may straighten her clothing or adjust in her seat;
She may touch her face, neck, or rub her hand on her own leg.
All these gestures indicate a desire to look attractive. Women are always
showing men signs of interest, but so many men just don’t know how to read
them! You need to observe women and, using this book as a guide, learn to
interpret their body positions and gestures. When a woman shows signs of
interest you need to be confident with your approach, and that she will
accept your advances, and move toward her.
If you are more interested in learning how to interpret a woman’s body
language there are numerous books written on just that. It is an extensive
subject – one worth reading up on! The more you know about how women
convey their feelings, the better you can communicate with them.
Physical Contact
If you are like every man I know, you want to become physical with the
woman you are advancing upon. You must not move too quickly, though. The
woman will show signs of interest, you will start a conversation, and then
you can inadvertently touch her. A soft, subtle touch can make a woman
feel at ease with you. You will reassure her that you are a nice, gentle
person.
The best way to initiate physical contact with a woman is to
"accidentally" touch her. Any indirect contact will do – if you are
standing, stand close so your arms touch, or if you are sitting, sit close
enough so that your legs touch. If she allows or returns the contact, then
you are okay to continue. Once you establish your first physical contact
you should continue to touch her. It lets her know that you are definitely
interested, and you don’t want her to get away.
Often, men lose out with women because they DON’T touch her enough. Men
often hesitate touching too much for fear of scaring her away, but women
think that he is not totally interested in her. This is a simple
miscommunication that you can easily avoid. Touch her. If she pulls away
then you should give her some more time to get comfortable with you. You
don’t want to come on too strong, or you might offend her.
Take the initiative to be close,but let the woman dictate how much, how
fast.
If you feel that the chemistry between you is building quickly and you
feel the desire to kiss her, look deep into her eyes. Stand close enough
so that you can touch her cheek, and pull yourself against her. Wait to
see her reaction. If she pulls away then she is not ready to be kissed. If
she returns the closeness and doesn’t pull or turn away, kiss her softly.
Make sure you don’t give her a wet, sloppy kiss. Women hate that! If a
woman wants to be kissed, she will position herself in front of you.
Knowing just when to initiate physical contact, or when to kiss her, takes
practice. You can practice touching people inadvertently throughout the
day, but the best practice will be with women.
Ensure Success Tonight
Now that you know about women’s behavior and body language, you need to
know how to find the woman who is looking for the same thing you are – to
meet someone tonight. This woman will be looking hot and desirable.
Typically, she will wear clothes that show off her female form. She may
draw attention to her breasts or legs. She may wear a tight skirt or top
to show off her feminine curves. This woman wants to look her best so that
she will attract male attention. She knows that she looks hot, and she has
probably only one thing on her mind – to find a sexual partner.
A woman looking to meet a man will express open body language, and she
will be watching every man in the room. She is looking to choose the lucky
guy who gets to take her home tonight. Despite her outspoken body
language, you should always follow the points in this chapter – make eye
contact and flirt with her before approaching her. Instead of looking deep
into her eyes, you could play with her a little and undress her with your
eyes. A woman with the goal of a one-night stand will appreciate this
gesture, and the chemistry will spark! This woman is sending out obvious
signals of interest. Now that you know even the slightest body suggestions
you can pick up on her obvious desires. You can be the lucky guy who
attracts her attention using your own body language and takes her home!

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Chapter 5: How To Seduce Women
Once you find a woman you’d like to approach, you must know how to make
initial contact with her. Once you achieve recognition, you have to be
able to read her signals – do you continue your approach? Or do you take
the red flag and get out of the game? This chapter is devoted to helping
you learn the best strategy for approaching a woman. I will define the
entire process, from initial contact and flirting, through conversation,
touching, and to the bedroom. This chapter will lay the foundation for the
more detailed discussions in the following chapters about specific
flirting techniques (Chapter 7), how to initiate a conversation with a
woman (Chapter 9), and what to say to a woman (Chapters 8, 9 & 10).
The seduction process can be broken down into three main stages. Each of
these progressions – Recognition and Flirting, Conversation, and Chemistry
– will be described for you in this chapter. As you read about each step,
keep in mind that you must lead the woman through the seduction process.
She ultimately gives the approval, but you maintain control. Understanding
these methods will allow you to easily incorporate your existing knowledge
and skills into the more advanced topics in later chapters.
Stage 1: Recognition and Flirting
Objective: Find Her, Acknowledge Her, Interpret Her Response
This stage is includes checking out your surroundings, observing all the
potential target women, and deciding which woman you would like to pick
up. Once you decide whom you will target, you must let her know that you
are interested. You can do this by making eye contact with her, smiling at
her, or giving her a little nod. Then, you must get a response from her.
She will likely smile, raise her eyebrows or return the eye contact. Once
you receive acknowledgement from her, you will subconsciously start making
subtle body movements. These gestures include running your fingers through
our hair, stretching, repositioning your self in your chair, touching your
face, or adjusting your clothing. You may not even notice your movements –
don’t worry about it! This behavior is usually a sign of anxiety and your
apprehension of actually meeting her and talking to her. Some women may
notice your body language, and those who do will find it appealing. It
gives a woman indication that you intend to approach her.
After the initial response, you must improve your chances of getting
further recognition from her. Chapter 7 goes into more detail about using
and reading body language. What you read here are just the basics. Make
sure you are in her line of vision. Adjust your position in the room so
that you are facing her. Then subtly scan the room and, without looking AT
her, try to catch her eye for another moment of eye contact. Now it is up
to her to either discourage you or encourage you. She will either show
interest, or she will turn away from you. If she turns away, cut your
losses and move on to the next woman you find attractive. Don’t waste your
time on a woman who isn’t interested. If she smiles at you, or moves
towards you, this means she is interested. If she makes eye contact with
you, be sure to smile! It conveys the message that you are interested, and
you would like to meet her. Watch her body language for subtle gestures of
encouragement – anything from fidgeting with her glass, looking down, or
touching her face or hair. Any of this behavior indicates that she wants
to meet you. She is inviting you with her body language. Keep in mind that
women know quite well how to reject men. If she smiles at you or makes an
effort to straighten her appearance then she is definitely sending you a
signal of approval. Remember: You lead, so take the initiative and go over
and say something to her.
Stage 2: Conversation
Objective: Approach Her, Talk to Her, Make Arrangements to See Her Again
From this point onwards, your success lies in your ability to verbally
communicate with your targeted woman. She has already given you approval
to approach her, now you have a chance to win her approval to see her
again. The best way to be successful in the stage is to just go ahead and
do it! The more you think about what you will say, or how she might react,
the more you worry about going over to her and talking to her. Keep in
mind you have absolutely nothing to lose!
You already know the importance of action. Now is the perfect time to
execute initiative. Walk over to your targeted woman. If a woman sees you
walking confidently towards her she will recognize that you are a
self-assured man. At this point, you need to say something to her. All you
need to do is break the ice, then she will reply and a conversation is
ignited. What to say to women and how to approach them is discussed at
length in Chapters 8 and 9. Also in Chapter 8 you will find out what vital
information you must get from your conversation with a woman.
During this stage, there should be more eye contact, and continuing body
language. You may notice that your gestures reflect hers, or vice versa.
This is a sign that you are becoming comfortable with the conversation and
a connection is being made. With this positive behavior, you should either
ask for her number so that you can call her, or set up a time and place to
meet again. (Chapter 10 discusses how to date women, and what to say to
them before and during your dates.)
It will take practice to become comfortable approaching women, but with
time and experience, you will soon find out what techniques work best for
you.
Stage 3: Chemistry
Objective: Physical Contact
This stage is based on creating a connection with a woman. She has to
trust you, and be able to communicate with you. This connection can be
made in seconds, or it might take a few dates, or it may never happen. In
Chapter 11 you will learn effective techniques for building this
connection.
Once you create sexual chemistry with a women you desire, then you will
have no problem finding the opportunity to get closer to her. There will
be the urge for physical contact with the woman. Likely examples are
brushing against each other, touching legs under the table, or touching
shoulders if you are sitting beside one another. While walking, you want
to touch her waist or her back, or hold her hand. This behavior often
develops after a couple of dates, if not sooner, and almost always leads
to kissing and cuddling.
Once you get a woman into this stage, it’s just a matter of
timing and charm before you get her into your bed.
These three stages of seduction are the basis for the remaining chapters
in this book. The following chapters offer more detailed information, and
many useful suggestions for making the seduction process easier.

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Chapter 4: Where Women Can Be Found
One thing every man should understand is that obtainable women surround
him all the time. We just don’t realize it yet. To be successful with
women you need to recognize these endless opportunities to meet new women.
Start taking every opportunity to meet new women. Granted, many of these
women may not be your type or have anything in common with you. Just
because you meet her does not mean you will go out with her. But you owe
it to yourself to get out there and interact with women.
There are many different places and ways to meet women. This chapter
discusses ways you’ll make yourself more available to different types of
women, and how you can "target" the type of woman you desire. Remember,
this chapter covers many different approaches to meeting and dating women.
Not all approaches may appeal to you, but it never hurts to try everything
once.
Organized Dating Groups
Organized dating services can be great, provided they aren’t too
expensive. You shouldn’t waste your time and money on telephone dating
hotlines, or on classified personals, because you can’t see what you’re
getting involved with. It’s better to have a photo of her or to interact
casually with a woman before actually asking her out. We all know that
looks are important, especially when looking for a woman you are attracted
to!
There are many social groups geared towards singles. They are usually
formed around a common interest such as hiking, music, photography, or
some other favored pastime. A group like this can be good because you’ll
already have a common interest to talk about when you meet a woman. To
find out about clubs in your area, try your local community center or
newspaper.
There are also many online dating communities to join. You can chat,
exchange photos, and get to know women without actually meeting them. The
Internet is a great place to practice hitting on women where there are no
egos involved. Who cares if you offend her? She simply won’t write you
anymore. If you have an Internet connection, this is a great low-risk
place to practice. It is also a great way to narrow your search by process
of elimination; however, you still can’t be sure of what you’re getting.
No matter which type of singles groups you choose to join, you may still
not find your target woman. A more focused approach will be discussed at
the end of this chapter. Essentially, you only go after your desired type
of woman. While targeting on a specific type of woman can be good, as it
won’t waste a lot of time, you never know where you’ll meet the woman of
your dreams. She could bump into you when you least expect it. That is why
the Shotgun Theory cannot be overlooked or underestimated.
Shotgun Theory
The Shotgun Theory emphasizes hitting as many targets as possible. This
theory is perfect for hitting on women, and it can also effect your
success when job hunting. You want the biggest spread! So, what does this
mean to your dating approach? Talk to every woman you find attractive!
Wherever you are, wherever you go, you are going to see women you find
attractive. Once you see a woman you are interested in all you have to do
is approach her, talk to her, or get her phone number. How to approach her
is coming up later, but for now recognize that anywhere and anytime is the
right place and the right time to meet women.
With this approach, you’ll have endless numbers and endless dates! To
increase your odds with this approach, you should go to where there are
greater numbers of women. Such places include aerobics or dance classes,
acting and theater groups, singles events, and singles bars. Also, you
should always dress to impress every time you leave your house. It’s an
unwritten truth that you’ll meet the woman of your dreams when you are
least expecting it. You want the confidence that looking great will give
you.
With this enthusiastic approach, you’ll always have at least one woman on
the go, and you’ll always be meeting new women. What if she isn’t
interested? Don’t take it personally. Every man gets rejected some time.
The foundation of the Shotgun Theory is to never give up.
You may give up on one woman, but not on your
quest to get the woman you desire.

Bars and Night Clubs
Bars and clubs are a great place to meet women and to practice your
Shotgun approach. There are always single women making themselves
available by going to singles bars and nightclubs.
If you want to be successful picking up women in bars, you should try
going to those that aren’t too noisy to talk. Some bars have live bands
that can play extremely loud. This creates the need to yell back and
forth, thus taking away from the seductive behavior. You need to be able
to carry a conversation with a woman if you expect to pick her up or get
her phone number.
Another factor that contributes to a comfortable atmosphere is lighting.
You don’t want a bar to be too dim. Again, you want to see what you’re
getting. Try to find a club that has a little brighter room. Also, try to
find a club that has a cozy area with couches or tables where you could
suggest having a drink with a woman. If the lighting is adequate, you will
see her well enough to decide if she is worth your while, and if the music
isn’t too loud, you will be able to have a conversation with her. Already,
without any commitment, you know if you’ll like her or not.
Coffee Shops
Believe it or not, coffee shops are prime locations to hook up with a
woman. The caffeine has a big part in this, as it triggers the pleasure
center of the brain by releasing a substance in the body called phenyl
ethylamine. The coffee creates a body rush – her breathing will quicken,
as will her heart rate – and she’ll be more receptive to your advances
than if you had met her elsewhere. Women in coffee shops tend to be more
open to meeting.
Coffee shops are also a great place to meet women because it often means
you live in the same neighborhood, therefore there is a greater chance of
bumping into her more than once. Coffee shops are a casual environment,
and it is easy to approach a woman. You simply ask her if you can sit on
the stool beside her at the coffee bar, or offer to share a table with
her. Often, women are in coffee shops to take a break from her hurried day
and good conversation can be a welcome advance.
Grocery Stores & Laundromats
Ah, the necessities of life. Every woman must buy food. This reason alone
is bound to attract your attention… If every woman is, at some time,
walking the isles of a grocery store then you have a chance to meet her.
The next time you are shopping for food and you see an attractive woman,
simply push your cart up beside hers and smile at her. Then say something
charming to break the ice and start a conversation.
Laundry is another required chore that we all must carry out. Laundromats
can be very casual environments to meet women. Most people spend about an
hour and a half doing their laundry, which gives plenty of time to spark
up conversation. It can be much easier to approach a woman when she is
relaxed and just being herself. If you decide to approach a woman in the
Laundromat, be sure not to approach her while she is folding her personal
clothing, though. Most women will feel uncomfortable if you do this. If
you do meet a great woman in the Laundromat and you don’t get her number,
at least be sure to ask her about her regular laundry days, then perhaps
plan to meet again "same place, same time." As with coffee shops, meeting
at a Laundromat indicates that you live nearby to her.
Break Your Routine!
You heard me! Break your routine. Take a different route to work, walk to
the corner store instead of drive, have coffee at a new café, take walks
at lunchtime. Changing your routine will expose you to new people and new
places and will increase your chances to meet and date new women.
A great way to expose your self to new people is to try new things, or go
to new places. Create an adventure for your self, and get involved in
something you haven’t tried, or haven’t done in years. Take at least one
day this week and try something new! I have brainstormed a list of places
to go and activities you could try – not only to meet women, but to
enhance your life as well.
Tennis Courts Art Shows The Beach
Health Clubs Concerts The Park
Sporting Events Museums Cafeteria
Department Stores The Zoo Jogging
Amusement Parks Boat Shows Restaurants
Health Fairs Car Shows On the Street
Church Career Fairs Video Store
Local Markets Book Signings In an Elevator
Sports Bars Club meetings Parades
Garage Sales Political Events Bus Stops
Book Store Magazine Shop Airport
Remember: Anytime! Anywhere!
It doesn’t matter where you are, or what you are doing, you should always
be ready to go into action. The more practiced you are at approaching and
meeting women, the more confident you become with your techniques. This
ultimately leads to a higher success rate with women! Remember, that you
don’t have to call every number you get – it’s the process of actually
getting her number that is important. Just keep practicing! Don’t get
discouraged if you get shut down – consider it her loss. Once you become
an expert, you will have no trouble getting the woman of your dreams!
How to Target Your Dream Woman
Following is your best chance of meeting the woman of your desires. You
need to figure out where your ideal woman will spend her time, where she
socializes, where she might shop, and in what clubs or organizations she
might be a member. Now, you put your self in these places. Spend time in
stores she might shop in; join the clubs she might join.
Find your ideal woman in a focused and well thought-out manner.
Make this search a priority in your schedule. Pencil in time throughout
your week devoted to finding, meeting and picking up women of your desired
type. This approach may at first result in failure, but keep reminding
yourself that each failure leads to a greater success. You must persevere
though rejections and practice your techniques. Figure out why you were
rejected. What went wrong? What went right? In any case, chalk it up to
experience and move on.
Above all, remain focused on your goal. Keep visualizing your desired
woman, and you will be more likely to meet her. Don’t live with paranoia
that you missed or screwed up an opportunity. Your ideal woman is destined
to be with you.
Time to Move On…
Now that you know the basics, it’s time to move on. This chapter is the
last chapter for building your foundation for meeting, picking up and
seducing women. It concludes the Who, What and Where portion of this book.
What you have learned so far is imperative to your success with women, and
the remainder of this book is all about using effective strategies. The
next chapter beings answering the How questions to attracting, talking to,
and dating the women you meet.