Chapter 4: Where Women Can Be Found
One thing every man should understand is that obtainable women surround
him all the time. We just don’t realize it yet. To be successful with
women you need to recognize these endless opportunities to meet new women.
Start taking every opportunity to meet new women. Granted, many of these
women may not be your type or have anything in common with you. Just
because you meet her does not mean you will go out with her. But you owe
it to yourself to get out there and interact with women.
There are many different places and ways to meet women. This chapter
discusses ways you’ll make yourself more available to different types of
women, and how you can "target" the type of woman you desire. Remember,
this chapter covers many different approaches to meeting and dating women.
Not all approaches may appeal to you, but it never hurts to try everything
once.
Organized Dating Groups
Organized dating services can be great, provided they aren’t too
expensive. You shouldn’t waste your time and money on telephone dating
hotlines, or on classified personals, because you can’t see what you’re
getting involved with. It’s better to have a photo of her or to interact
casually with a woman before actually asking her out. We all know that
looks are important, especially when looking for a woman you are attracted
to!
There are many social groups geared towards singles. They are usually
formed around a common interest such as hiking, music, photography, or
some other favored pastime. A group like this can be good because you’ll
already have a common interest to talk about when you meet a woman. To
find out about clubs in your area, try your local community center or
newspaper.
There are also many online dating communities to join. You can chat,
exchange photos, and get to know women without actually meeting them. The
Internet is a great place to practice hitting on women where there are no
egos involved. Who cares if you offend her? She simply won’t write you
anymore. If you have an Internet connection, this is a great low-risk
place to practice. It is also a great way to narrow your search by process
of elimination; however, you still can’t be sure of what you’re getting.
No matter which type of singles groups you choose to join, you may still
not find your target woman. A more focused approach will be discussed at
the end of this chapter. Essentially, you only go after your desired type
of woman. While targeting on a specific type of woman can be good, as it
won’t waste a lot of time, you never know where you’ll meet the woman of
your dreams. She could bump into you when you least expect it. That is why
the Shotgun Theory cannot be overlooked or underestimated.
Shotgun Theory
The Shotgun Theory emphasizes hitting as many targets as possible. This
theory is perfect for hitting on women, and it can also effect your
success when job hunting. You want the biggest spread! So, what does this
mean to your dating approach? Talk to every woman you find attractive!
Wherever you are, wherever you go, you are going to see women you find
attractive. Once you see a woman you are interested in all you have to do
is approach her, talk to her, or get her phone number. How to approach her
is coming up later, but for now recognize that anywhere and anytime is the
right place and the right time to meet women.
With this approach, you’ll have endless numbers and endless dates! To
increase your odds with this approach, you should go to where there are
greater numbers of women. Such places include aerobics or dance classes,
acting and theater groups, singles events, and singles bars. Also, you
should always dress to impress every time you leave your house. It’s an
unwritten truth that you’ll meet the woman of your dreams when you are
least expecting it. You want the confidence that looking great will give
you.
With this enthusiastic approach, you’ll always have at least one woman on
the go, and you’ll always be meeting new women. What if she isn’t
interested? Don’t take it personally. Every man gets rejected some time.
The foundation of the Shotgun Theory is to never give up.
You may give up on one woman, but not on your
quest to get the woman you desire.
Bars and Night Clubs
Bars and clubs are a great place to meet women and to practice your
Shotgun approach. There are always single women making themselves
available by going to singles bars and nightclubs.
If you want to be successful picking up women in bars, you should try
going to those that aren’t too noisy to talk. Some bars have live bands
that can play extremely loud. This creates the need to yell back and
forth, thus taking away from the seductive behavior. You need to be able
to carry a conversation with a woman if you expect to pick her up or get
her phone number.
Another factor that contributes to a comfortable atmosphere is lighting.
You don’t want a bar to be too dim. Again, you want to see what you’re
getting. Try to find a club that has a little brighter room. Also, try to
find a club that has a cozy area with couches or tables where you could
suggest having a drink with a woman. If the lighting is adequate, you will
see her well enough to decide if she is worth your while, and if the music
isn’t too loud, you will be able to have a conversation with her. Already,
without any commitment, you know if you’ll like her or not.
Coffee Shops
Believe it or not, coffee shops are prime locations to hook up with a
woman. The caffeine has a big part in this, as it triggers the pleasure
center of the brain by releasing a substance in the body called phenyl
ethylamine. The coffee creates a body rush – her breathing will quicken,
as will her heart rate – and she’ll be more receptive to your advances
than if you had met her elsewhere. Women in coffee shops tend to be more
open to meeting.
Coffee shops are also a great place to meet women because it often means
you live in the same neighborhood, therefore there is a greater chance of
bumping into her more than once. Coffee shops are a casual environment,
and it is easy to approach a woman. You simply ask her if you can sit on
the stool beside her at the coffee bar, or offer to share a table with
her. Often, women are in coffee shops to take a break from her hurried day
and good conversation can be a welcome advance.
Grocery Stores & Laundromats
Ah, the necessities of life. Every woman must buy food. This reason alone
is bound to attract your attention… If every woman is, at some time,
walking the isles of a grocery store then you have a chance to meet her.
The next time you are shopping for food and you see an attractive woman,
simply push your cart up beside hers and smile at her. Then say something
charming to break the ice and start a conversation.
Laundry is another required chore that we all must carry out. Laundromats
can be very casual environments to meet women. Most people spend about an
hour and a half doing their laundry, which gives plenty of time to spark
up conversation. It can be much easier to approach a woman when she is
relaxed and just being herself. If you decide to approach a woman in the
Laundromat, be sure not to approach her while she is folding her personal
clothing, though. Most women will feel uncomfortable if you do this. If
you do meet a great woman in the Laundromat and you don’t get her number,
at least be sure to ask her about her regular laundry days, then perhaps
plan to meet again "same place, same time." As with coffee shops, meeting
at a Laundromat indicates that you live nearby to her.
Break Your Routine!
You heard me! Break your routine. Take a different route to work, walk to
the corner store instead of drive, have coffee at a new café, take walks
at lunchtime. Changing your routine will expose you to new people and new
places and will increase your chances to meet and date new women.
A great way to expose your self to new people is to try new things, or go
to new places. Create an adventure for your self, and get involved in
something you haven’t tried, or haven’t done in years. Take at least one
day this week and try something new! I have brainstormed a list of places
to go and activities you could try – not only to meet women, but to
enhance your life as well.
Tennis Courts Art Shows The Beach
Health Clubs Concerts The Park
Sporting Events Museums Cafeteria
Department Stores The Zoo Jogging
Amusement Parks Boat Shows Restaurants
Health Fairs Car Shows On the Street
Church Career Fairs Video Store
Local Markets Book Signings In an Elevator
Sports Bars Club meetings Parades
Garage Sales Political Events Bus Stops
Book Store Magazine Shop Airport
Remember: Anytime! Anywhere!
It doesn’t matter where you are, or what you are doing, you should always
be ready to go into action. The more practiced you are at approaching and
meeting women, the more confident you become with your techniques. This
ultimately leads to a higher success rate with women! Remember, that you
don’t have to call every number you get – it’s the process of actually
getting her number that is important. Just keep practicing! Don’t get
discouraged if you get shut down – consider it her loss. Once you become
an expert, you will have no trouble getting the woman of your dreams!
How to Target Your Dream Woman
Following is your best chance of meeting the woman of your desires. You
need to figure out where your ideal woman will spend her time, where she
socializes, where she might shop, and in what clubs or organizations she
might be a member. Now, you put your self in these places. Spend time in
stores she might shop in; join the clubs she might join.
Find your ideal woman in a focused and well thought-out manner.
Make this search a priority in your schedule. Pencil in time throughout
your week devoted to finding, meeting and picking up women of your desired
type. This approach may at first result in failure, but keep reminding
yourself that each failure leads to a greater success. You must persevere
though rejections and practice your techniques. Figure out why you were
rejected. What went wrong? What went right? In any case, chalk it up to
experience and move on.
Above all, remain focused on your goal. Keep visualizing your desired
woman, and you will be more likely to meet her. Don’t live with paranoia
that you missed or screwed up an opportunity. Your ideal woman is destined
to be with you.
Time to Move On…
Now that you know the basics, it’s time to move on. This chapter is the
last chapter for building your foundation for meeting, picking up and
seducing women. It concludes the Who, What and Where portion of this book.
What you have learned so far is imperative to your success with women, and
the remainder of this book is all about using effective strategies. The
next chapter beings answering the How questions to attracting, talking to,
and dating the women you meet.
One thing every man should understand is that obtainable women surround
him all the time. We just don’t realize it yet. To be successful with
women you need to recognize these endless opportunities to meet new women.
Start taking every opportunity to meet new women. Granted, many of these
women may not be your type or have anything in common with you. Just
because you meet her does not mean you will go out with her. But you owe
it to yourself to get out there and interact with women.
There are many different places and ways to meet women. This chapter
discusses ways you’ll make yourself more available to different types of
women, and how you can "target" the type of woman you desire. Remember,
this chapter covers many different approaches to meeting and dating women.
Not all approaches may appeal to you, but it never hurts to try everything
once.
Organized Dating Groups
Organized dating services can be great, provided they aren’t too
expensive. You shouldn’t waste your time and money on telephone dating
hotlines, or on classified personals, because you can’t see what you’re
getting involved with. It’s better to have a photo of her or to interact
casually with a woman before actually asking her out. We all know that
looks are important, especially when looking for a woman you are attracted
to!
There are many social groups geared towards singles. They are usually
formed around a common interest such as hiking, music, photography, or
some other favored pastime. A group like this can be good because you’ll
already have a common interest to talk about when you meet a woman. To
find out about clubs in your area, try your local community center or
newspaper.
There are also many online dating communities to join. You can chat,
exchange photos, and get to know women without actually meeting them. The
Internet is a great place to practice hitting on women where there are no
egos involved. Who cares if you offend her? She simply won’t write you
anymore. If you have an Internet connection, this is a great low-risk
place to practice. It is also a great way to narrow your search by process
of elimination; however, you still can’t be sure of what you’re getting.
No matter which type of singles groups you choose to join, you may still
not find your target woman. A more focused approach will be discussed at
the end of this chapter. Essentially, you only go after your desired type
of woman. While targeting on a specific type of woman can be good, as it
won’t waste a lot of time, you never know where you’ll meet the woman of
your dreams. She could bump into you when you least expect it. That is why
the Shotgun Theory cannot be overlooked or underestimated.
Shotgun Theory
The Shotgun Theory emphasizes hitting as many targets as possible. This
theory is perfect for hitting on women, and it can also effect your
success when job hunting. You want the biggest spread! So, what does this
mean to your dating approach? Talk to every woman you find attractive!
Wherever you are, wherever you go, you are going to see women you find
attractive. Once you see a woman you are interested in all you have to do
is approach her, talk to her, or get her phone number. How to approach her
is coming up later, but for now recognize that anywhere and anytime is the
right place and the right time to meet women.
With this approach, you’ll have endless numbers and endless dates! To
increase your odds with this approach, you should go to where there are
greater numbers of women. Such places include aerobics or dance classes,
acting and theater groups, singles events, and singles bars. Also, you
should always dress to impress every time you leave your house. It’s an
unwritten truth that you’ll meet the woman of your dreams when you are
least expecting it. You want the confidence that looking great will give
you.
With this enthusiastic approach, you’ll always have at least one woman on
the go, and you’ll always be meeting new women. What if she isn’t
interested? Don’t take it personally. Every man gets rejected some time.
The foundation of the Shotgun Theory is to never give up.
You may give up on one woman, but not on your
quest to get the woman you desire.
Bars and Night Clubs
Bars and clubs are a great place to meet women and to practice your
Shotgun approach. There are always single women making themselves
available by going to singles bars and nightclubs.
If you want to be successful picking up women in bars, you should try
going to those that aren’t too noisy to talk. Some bars have live bands
that can play extremely loud. This creates the need to yell back and
forth, thus taking away from the seductive behavior. You need to be able
to carry a conversation with a woman if you expect to pick her up or get
her phone number.
Another factor that contributes to a comfortable atmosphere is lighting.
You don’t want a bar to be too dim. Again, you want to see what you’re
getting. Try to find a club that has a little brighter room. Also, try to
find a club that has a cozy area with couches or tables where you could
suggest having a drink with a woman. If the lighting is adequate, you will
see her well enough to decide if she is worth your while, and if the music
isn’t too loud, you will be able to have a conversation with her. Already,
without any commitment, you know if you’ll like her or not.
Coffee Shops
Believe it or not, coffee shops are prime locations to hook up with a
woman. The caffeine has a big part in this, as it triggers the pleasure
center of the brain by releasing a substance in the body called phenyl
ethylamine. The coffee creates a body rush – her breathing will quicken,
as will her heart rate – and she’ll be more receptive to your advances
than if you had met her elsewhere. Women in coffee shops tend to be more
open to meeting.
Coffee shops are also a great place to meet women because it often means
you live in the same neighborhood, therefore there is a greater chance of
bumping into her more than once. Coffee shops are a casual environment,
and it is easy to approach a woman. You simply ask her if you can sit on
the stool beside her at the coffee bar, or offer to share a table with
her. Often, women are in coffee shops to take a break from her hurried day
and good conversation can be a welcome advance.
Grocery Stores & Laundromats
Ah, the necessities of life. Every woman must buy food. This reason alone
is bound to attract your attention… If every woman is, at some time,
walking the isles of a grocery store then you have a chance to meet her.
The next time you are shopping for food and you see an attractive woman,
simply push your cart up beside hers and smile at her. Then say something
charming to break the ice and start a conversation.
Laundry is another required chore that we all must carry out. Laundromats
can be very casual environments to meet women. Most people spend about an
hour and a half doing their laundry, which gives plenty of time to spark
up conversation. It can be much easier to approach a woman when she is
relaxed and just being herself. If you decide to approach a woman in the
Laundromat, be sure not to approach her while she is folding her personal
clothing, though. Most women will feel uncomfortable if you do this. If
you do meet a great woman in the Laundromat and you don’t get her number,
at least be sure to ask her about her regular laundry days, then perhaps
plan to meet again "same place, same time." As with coffee shops, meeting
at a Laundromat indicates that you live nearby to her.
Break Your Routine!
You heard me! Break your routine. Take a different route to work, walk to
the corner store instead of drive, have coffee at a new café, take walks
at lunchtime. Changing your routine will expose you to new people and new
places and will increase your chances to meet and date new women.
A great way to expose your self to new people is to try new things, or go
to new places. Create an adventure for your self, and get involved in
something you haven’t tried, or haven’t done in years. Take at least one
day this week and try something new! I have brainstormed a list of places
to go and activities you could try – not only to meet women, but to
enhance your life as well.
Tennis Courts Art Shows The Beach
Health Clubs Concerts The Park
Sporting Events Museums Cafeteria
Department Stores The Zoo Jogging
Amusement Parks Boat Shows Restaurants
Health Fairs Car Shows On the Street
Church Career Fairs Video Store
Local Markets Book Signings In an Elevator
Sports Bars Club meetings Parades
Garage Sales Political Events Bus Stops
Book Store Magazine Shop Airport
Remember: Anytime! Anywhere!
It doesn’t matter where you are, or what you are doing, you should always
be ready to go into action. The more practiced you are at approaching and
meeting women, the more confident you become with your techniques. This
ultimately leads to a higher success rate with women! Remember, that you
don’t have to call every number you get – it’s the process of actually
getting her number that is important. Just keep practicing! Don’t get
discouraged if you get shut down – consider it her loss. Once you become
an expert, you will have no trouble getting the woman of your dreams!
How to Target Your Dream Woman
Following is your best chance of meeting the woman of your desires. You
need to figure out where your ideal woman will spend her time, where she
socializes, where she might shop, and in what clubs or organizations she
might be a member. Now, you put your self in these places. Spend time in
stores she might shop in; join the clubs she might join.
Find your ideal woman in a focused and well thought-out manner.
Make this search a priority in your schedule. Pencil in time throughout
your week devoted to finding, meeting and picking up women of your desired
type. This approach may at first result in failure, but keep reminding
yourself that each failure leads to a greater success. You must persevere
though rejections and practice your techniques. Figure out why you were
rejected. What went wrong? What went right? In any case, chalk it up to
experience and move on.
Above all, remain focused on your goal. Keep visualizing your desired
woman, and you will be more likely to meet her. Don’t live with paranoia
that you missed or screwed up an opportunity. Your ideal woman is destined
to be with you.
Time to Move On…
Now that you know the basics, it’s time to move on. This chapter is the
last chapter for building your foundation for meeting, picking up and
seducing women. It concludes the Who, What and Where portion of this book.
What you have learned so far is imperative to your success with women, and
the remainder of this book is all about using effective strategies. The
next chapter beings answering the How questions to attracting, talking to,
and dating the women you meet.
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