Chapter 6: How To Use Power And Suggestion Of Body Language
The man with the greatest chance for success with a woman is a man who can
attract her, approach her, and seduce her by using both verbal and
non-verbal language. This chapter is all about body language – yours and
hers. You need to know how your body language influences her reactions and
opinions toward you. You need to know how to get the results you want by
telling her what you want before you approach her. You’ll learn what
impression you can give her and how you can convey your intentions to her
by using simple gestures.
You’ll also learn how to pick out the women that will be the most
responsive to your efforts. You want to minimize your chances of
rejection. In this chapter you will find out how to spot the women that
want to be picked up and those tat want to be left alone. You will learn
how to use body language to communicate with women. You will soon learn
how to read a woman’s movements and reactions to determine what she’s
thinking and how she feels.
Body language is the most powerful and effective communication tool when
meeting women. You must become fully aware of body language and use it to
your advantage. Once you read through this chapter your chance for success
will increase as you begin to see the clues women give you through their
body language. Using this valuable information, your time and effort will
no longer be wasted on women who cannot or will not give you what you
desire.
Use Your Body Language Effectively
This is called Flirting. Flirting is extremely important when
communicating with women that you intend to pick up. Everyone can flirt,
but not all can flirt successfully. You will soon be able to flirt with
women and achieve great results! This chapter is full of suggestions for
effective flirting.
To become an expert at flirting you need practice, practice and more
practice.
There are many women out there eager to flirt with men. You may not see
yourself with all of them, but you should still use them to practice your
techniques! Practice making women smile; practice talking to women;
practice being funny and charming; practice new lines; practice asking for
her phone number. You should especially practice reading women – approach
them to compare their reactions to what you expected. Every time you are
right about a woman’s thoughts you will become more of an expert at
reading women. You will become more confident and, when it comes time to
flirt with a woman you really want to date or sleep with, you’ll be ready.
Personal Space
You have to set the stage for exchanging body language with a woman. The
best way to do this is it to position yourself within reasonable proximity
to her. Once you see a woman you are interested in you should turn to face
her. Make sure that you are in her line of vision, so that you can easily
exchange glances. You want her to see you. As soon as she sees you, start
flirting with her.
Women, too, use their personal space to flirt with you. If a woman is
particularly close to you – less than an arm’s length away – then she is
probably interested in you. Always assume she is interested, at which
point begin flirting with her. A woman will likely position herself near
you if she is interested.
When a woman sees a man she wants to meet, she will find a way to be
physically closer to him.
Have you ever noticed a woman who keeps appearing in your general
vicinity? No coincidence. Women have their own ways of getting closer to
men. She may slowly move closer to you; she may approach the bar at the
same time hoping to talk to you; she may "accidentally" bump into you; she
may touch your arm or your waist to make her way past you in a busy
nightclub; she may even brush her breasts up against you. This behavior is
sending the message that she wants to meet you.
Women almost always will tour the room and pass by any man she is
interested in more than once. She will look at you and look away – then
look again to see if you are still looking. This is a telltale sign that
she is interested. Men often don’t notice such subtle gestures. Keep
reading to learn more about her body language.
Every time you walk into a room, you should notice women, and where they
are. Keep your eyes open to see who is checking you out, and watch which
women move closer to you. These are the women that are interested in you,
and they will be more likely to accept your advances.
Make Eye Contact
If you see a woman you are interested in, the first thing you do is become
visible to her, then you want to make eye contact. Look into her eyes. Eye
contact, especially the first glance, can say a lot about your feelings
for a woman. Women can sense your intentions when she looks into your
eyes. Women are very good at reading a person’s eyes, so it is important
to be genuine. Allow her to see the real you; you’ll be more attractive if
you are being yourself. Be sure to look right into her eyes. Don’t look
her up and down like a piece of meat you just want to have sex with; look
at her. If you create chemistry (as discussed later in Chapter 11) she
will feel the connection right away.
Always try to make eye contact with any woman you are interested in.
Show her that you are serious about wanting to meet her and talk to her.
If you catch her eyes across the room, hold your gaze until she looks
away. You should never be the one to look away, and never look down.
Looking down is a sign of submission – that is what you want her to do! If
you look away you send messages of fear, or lack of interest. You want her
to know you are strong, confident and assertive. Hold eye contact with her
for an extended gaze. If she refuses to look away, give her a little wink
and a smile. When you are holding eye contact with a woman, and you feel
the tension building, don’t break down and look away. Force yourself to
keep looking deep into her eyes. By maintaining your gaze you are creating
sexual chemistry! Once the woman looks away then you should also look
away. Frequently scan her line of vision to see if she is looking back at
you, and see if she will make direct eye contact with you again. If a
woman is interested in you, she will let you know.
Extended eye contact is a good indication that she wants to meet you.
If she continues to look right at you, then you know she is interested.
She is inviting you over with her eyes. A woman with such confidence is
one to be extra secure around. She knows what she wants, and tonight she
wants you.
When you decide to approach a woman you want her to see you as a
self-assured man whom she could easily be with. Walk right up to her
without looking away. To engage a conversation, you should politely
introduce yourself and flatter her with a sincere compliment. She will
surely smile in response, or say thank you, and then you ask her name and
make conversation. You will learn just what to say in Chapter 8 How to
Talk With Women. Once you know her name, be sure to use it often so as not
to forget it.
Smile
A great smile will tell a woman a lot about you: you are sociable, you are
friendly, and you are happy. Smiling is easy and effective with women. It
will put a woman at ease, and she won’t feel threatened by you. When you
smile at a woman you are sending her the message that you have noticed her
and she should know that you are interested in her. If a woman smiles at
you, she is sending that same message. Always return a woman’s smile – it
tells her you are friendly, easy-going and approachable. When you make eye
contact with a woman, you must follow it up with a smile. If you don’t,
she may see you as angry, stupid, or a jerk! You might be trying to "keep
your cool" by maintaining a straight face, but women don’t want that – a
woman wants a friendly, approachable guy to smile at her and to give her a
sign of approval.
Smile at a woman to tell her you are interested.
Smiling at her and making eye contact with her will tell a woman you are
attracted to her. If a woman returns both gestures – eye contact and
smiling – you know you made an impression. You will have a pretty good
chance for success as she has already given you the approval to approach
her.
It is important to smile to women, and it is just as important to smile
while interacting with friends and strangers. If a woman is watching you,
and sees your positive manner, she’ll see you as a guy who knows how to
have a great time. A woman will notice you laughing and enjoying yourself.
She will see you as a guy who would be fun to go out and spend time with.
If you don’t have a confident smile, practice every day in front of the
mirror, or just smile at all the people you make contact with through out
the day. You will quickly feel great about your smile, and the reactions
you get from being friendly.
Reading Her Body Language
When reading a woman’s body language, be sure to consider all body
movements, facial expressions and even her verbal communication to other
people. Women are not very good at hiding their feelings. Their feelings
are expressed obviously, provided you can read what her body language is
saying. Women always convey what they are feeling through a series of
gestures. You need to be able to recognize these gestures and interpret
them to find out her thoughts, feelings, or motives. There are two key
forms of body positioning – open and closed. Open describes a woman who is
open to advancement. She will respond positively if you approach her.
Closed, on the other hand, indicates that the woman is on the defensive.
She is withdrawing from the situation; she may be unhappy; she may be
tired and wants to go home. Women with closed body language should
probably be avoided, unless you want a challenge.
Body Position – Standing
When a woman is standing, and she is open to advancement, she will often
stand with her legs slightly apart. Her arms could be by her side, on her
hips, or one hand will be holding a drink. She will be relaxed and her
movements will flow smoothly. These are all good indications of openness
to advancement.
A woman who is approachable will usually keep her hands showing –
indicating she has nothing to hide. A receptive woman will not have her
hands in her pockets, or her arms crossed. If a woman is standing with her
arms crossed she is demonstrating a closed body position. She is feeling
defensive and her arms pose as a physical barrier to anyone approaching.
Body Position – Sitting
When a woman is sitting with just her legs crossed, and her arms resting
on her lap, or on the arm rests, she is expressing an open body position.
She may have crossed her legs to be sexy – to show off more of her thigh
and to express invitation. If she is holding her knee and leaning forward,
she is showing interest. If she turns her body towards the person beside
her, she is definitely showing interest in that person.
When a woman is seated with her legs crossed AND her arms crossed – walk
away. She is not in a receptive body position. Wait until she relaxes.
Otherwise, she will probably be a very difficult woman to open up. Another
defensive position is when she tightly holds her hands on her lap, and her
ankles are crossed.
Obvious Flirting Behavior
Even if you aren’t very good at reading body positions, you can’t go wrong
if you notice some or all of the following behavior:
She may tilt her head to one side, or looks at you then looks down,
which indicates submission;
She may run her fingers through her hair;
She may straighten her clothing or adjust in her seat;
She may touch her face, neck, or rub her hand on her own leg.
All these gestures indicate a desire to look attractive. Women are always
showing men signs of interest, but so many men just don’t know how to read
them! You need to observe women and, using this book as a guide, learn to
interpret their body positions and gestures. When a woman shows signs of
interest you need to be confident with your approach, and that she will
accept your advances, and move toward her.
If you are more interested in learning how to interpret a woman’s body
language there are numerous books written on just that. It is an extensive
subject – one worth reading up on! The more you know about how women
convey their feelings, the better you can communicate with them.
Physical Contact
If you are like every man I know, you want to become physical with the
woman you are advancing upon. You must not move too quickly, though. The
woman will show signs of interest, you will start a conversation, and then
you can inadvertently touch her. A soft, subtle touch can make a woman
feel at ease with you. You will reassure her that you are a nice, gentle
person.
The best way to initiate physical contact with a woman is to
"accidentally" touch her. Any indirect contact will do – if you are
standing, stand close so your arms touch, or if you are sitting, sit close
enough so that your legs touch. If she allows or returns the contact, then
you are okay to continue. Once you establish your first physical contact
you should continue to touch her. It lets her know that you are definitely
interested, and you don’t want her to get away.
Often, men lose out with women because they DON’T touch her enough. Men
often hesitate touching too much for fear of scaring her away, but women
think that he is not totally interested in her. This is a simple
miscommunication that you can easily avoid. Touch her. If she pulls away
then you should give her some more time to get comfortable with you. You
don’t want to come on too strong, or you might offend her.
Take the initiative to be close,but let the woman dictate how much, how
fast.
If you feel that the chemistry between you is building quickly and you
feel the desire to kiss her, look deep into her eyes. Stand close enough
so that you can touch her cheek, and pull yourself against her. Wait to
see her reaction. If she pulls away then she is not ready to be kissed. If
she returns the closeness and doesn’t pull or turn away, kiss her softly.
Make sure you don’t give her a wet, sloppy kiss. Women hate that! If a
woman wants to be kissed, she will position herself in front of you.
Knowing just when to initiate physical contact, or when to kiss her, takes
practice. You can practice touching people inadvertently throughout the
day, but the best practice will be with women.
Ensure Success Tonight
Now that you know about women’s behavior and body language, you need to
know how to find the woman who is looking for the same thing you are – to
meet someone tonight. This woman will be looking hot and desirable.
Typically, she will wear clothes that show off her female form. She may
draw attention to her breasts or legs. She may wear a tight skirt or top
to show off her feminine curves. This woman wants to look her best so that
she will attract male attention. She knows that she looks hot, and she has
probably only one thing on her mind – to find a sexual partner.
A woman looking to meet a man will express open body language, and she
will be watching every man in the room. She is looking to choose the lucky
guy who gets to take her home tonight. Despite her outspoken body
language, you should always follow the points in this chapter – make eye
contact and flirt with her before approaching her. Instead of looking deep
into her eyes, you could play with her a little and undress her with your
eyes. A woman with the goal of a one-night stand will appreciate this
gesture, and the chemistry will spark! This woman is sending out obvious
signals of interest. Now that you know even the slightest body suggestions
you can pick up on her obvious desires. You can be the lucky guy who
attracts her attention using your own body language and takes her home!
The man with the greatest chance for success with a woman is a man who can
attract her, approach her, and seduce her by using both verbal and
non-verbal language. This chapter is all about body language – yours and
hers. You need to know how your body language influences her reactions and
opinions toward you. You need to know how to get the results you want by
telling her what you want before you approach her. You’ll learn what
impression you can give her and how you can convey your intentions to her
by using simple gestures.
You’ll also learn how to pick out the women that will be the most
responsive to your efforts. You want to minimize your chances of
rejection. In this chapter you will find out how to spot the women that
want to be picked up and those tat want to be left alone. You will learn
how to use body language to communicate with women. You will soon learn
how to read a woman’s movements and reactions to determine what she’s
thinking and how she feels.
Body language is the most powerful and effective communication tool when
meeting women. You must become fully aware of body language and use it to
your advantage. Once you read through this chapter your chance for success
will increase as you begin to see the clues women give you through their
body language. Using this valuable information, your time and effort will
no longer be wasted on women who cannot or will not give you what you
desire.
Use Your Body Language Effectively
This is called Flirting. Flirting is extremely important when
communicating with women that you intend to pick up. Everyone can flirt,
but not all can flirt successfully. You will soon be able to flirt with
women and achieve great results! This chapter is full of suggestions for
effective flirting.
To become an expert at flirting you need practice, practice and more
practice.
There are many women out there eager to flirt with men. You may not see
yourself with all of them, but you should still use them to practice your
techniques! Practice making women smile; practice talking to women;
practice being funny and charming; practice new lines; practice asking for
her phone number. You should especially practice reading women – approach
them to compare their reactions to what you expected. Every time you are
right about a woman’s thoughts you will become more of an expert at
reading women. You will become more confident and, when it comes time to
flirt with a woman you really want to date or sleep with, you’ll be ready.
Personal Space
You have to set the stage for exchanging body language with a woman. The
best way to do this is it to position yourself within reasonable proximity
to her. Once you see a woman you are interested in you should turn to face
her. Make sure that you are in her line of vision, so that you can easily
exchange glances. You want her to see you. As soon as she sees you, start
flirting with her.
Women, too, use their personal space to flirt with you. If a woman is
particularly close to you – less than an arm’s length away – then she is
probably interested in you. Always assume she is interested, at which
point begin flirting with her. A woman will likely position herself near
you if she is interested.
When a woman sees a man she wants to meet, she will find a way to be
physically closer to him.
Have you ever noticed a woman who keeps appearing in your general
vicinity? No coincidence. Women have their own ways of getting closer to
men. She may slowly move closer to you; she may approach the bar at the
same time hoping to talk to you; she may "accidentally" bump into you; she
may touch your arm or your waist to make her way past you in a busy
nightclub; she may even brush her breasts up against you. This behavior is
sending the message that she wants to meet you.
Women almost always will tour the room and pass by any man she is
interested in more than once. She will look at you and look away – then
look again to see if you are still looking. This is a telltale sign that
she is interested. Men often don’t notice such subtle gestures. Keep
reading to learn more about her body language.
Every time you walk into a room, you should notice women, and where they
are. Keep your eyes open to see who is checking you out, and watch which
women move closer to you. These are the women that are interested in you,
and they will be more likely to accept your advances.
Make Eye Contact
If you see a woman you are interested in, the first thing you do is become
visible to her, then you want to make eye contact. Look into her eyes. Eye
contact, especially the first glance, can say a lot about your feelings
for a woman. Women can sense your intentions when she looks into your
eyes. Women are very good at reading a person’s eyes, so it is important
to be genuine. Allow her to see the real you; you’ll be more attractive if
you are being yourself. Be sure to look right into her eyes. Don’t look
her up and down like a piece of meat you just want to have sex with; look
at her. If you create chemistry (as discussed later in Chapter 11) she
will feel the connection right away.
Always try to make eye contact with any woman you are interested in.
Show her that you are serious about wanting to meet her and talk to her.
If you catch her eyes across the room, hold your gaze until she looks
away. You should never be the one to look away, and never look down.
Looking down is a sign of submission – that is what you want her to do! If
you look away you send messages of fear, or lack of interest. You want her
to know you are strong, confident and assertive. Hold eye contact with her
for an extended gaze. If she refuses to look away, give her a little wink
and a smile. When you are holding eye contact with a woman, and you feel
the tension building, don’t break down and look away. Force yourself to
keep looking deep into her eyes. By maintaining your gaze you are creating
sexual chemistry! Once the woman looks away then you should also look
away. Frequently scan her line of vision to see if she is looking back at
you, and see if she will make direct eye contact with you again. If a
woman is interested in you, she will let you know.
Extended eye contact is a good indication that she wants to meet you.
If she continues to look right at you, then you know she is interested.
She is inviting you over with her eyes. A woman with such confidence is
one to be extra secure around. She knows what she wants, and tonight she
wants you.
When you decide to approach a woman you want her to see you as a
self-assured man whom she could easily be with. Walk right up to her
without looking away. To engage a conversation, you should politely
introduce yourself and flatter her with a sincere compliment. She will
surely smile in response, or say thank you, and then you ask her name and
make conversation. You will learn just what to say in Chapter 8 How to
Talk With Women. Once you know her name, be sure to use it often so as not
to forget it.
Smile
A great smile will tell a woman a lot about you: you are sociable, you are
friendly, and you are happy. Smiling is easy and effective with women. It
will put a woman at ease, and she won’t feel threatened by you. When you
smile at a woman you are sending her the message that you have noticed her
and she should know that you are interested in her. If a woman smiles at
you, she is sending that same message. Always return a woman’s smile – it
tells her you are friendly, easy-going and approachable. When you make eye
contact with a woman, you must follow it up with a smile. If you don’t,
she may see you as angry, stupid, or a jerk! You might be trying to "keep
your cool" by maintaining a straight face, but women don’t want that – a
woman wants a friendly, approachable guy to smile at her and to give her a
sign of approval.
Smile at a woman to tell her you are interested.
Smiling at her and making eye contact with her will tell a woman you are
attracted to her. If a woman returns both gestures – eye contact and
smiling – you know you made an impression. You will have a pretty good
chance for success as she has already given you the approval to approach
her.
It is important to smile to women, and it is just as important to smile
while interacting with friends and strangers. If a woman is watching you,
and sees your positive manner, she’ll see you as a guy who knows how to
have a great time. A woman will notice you laughing and enjoying yourself.
She will see you as a guy who would be fun to go out and spend time with.
If you don’t have a confident smile, practice every day in front of the
mirror, or just smile at all the people you make contact with through out
the day. You will quickly feel great about your smile, and the reactions
you get from being friendly.
Reading Her Body Language
When reading a woman’s body language, be sure to consider all body
movements, facial expressions and even her verbal communication to other
people. Women are not very good at hiding their feelings. Their feelings
are expressed obviously, provided you can read what her body language is
saying. Women always convey what they are feeling through a series of
gestures. You need to be able to recognize these gestures and interpret
them to find out her thoughts, feelings, or motives. There are two key
forms of body positioning – open and closed. Open describes a woman who is
open to advancement. She will respond positively if you approach her.
Closed, on the other hand, indicates that the woman is on the defensive.
She is withdrawing from the situation; she may be unhappy; she may be
tired and wants to go home. Women with closed body language should
probably be avoided, unless you want a challenge.
Body Position – Standing
When a woman is standing, and she is open to advancement, she will often
stand with her legs slightly apart. Her arms could be by her side, on her
hips, or one hand will be holding a drink. She will be relaxed and her
movements will flow smoothly. These are all good indications of openness
to advancement.
A woman who is approachable will usually keep her hands showing –
indicating she has nothing to hide. A receptive woman will not have her
hands in her pockets, or her arms crossed. If a woman is standing with her
arms crossed she is demonstrating a closed body position. She is feeling
defensive and her arms pose as a physical barrier to anyone approaching.
Body Position – Sitting
When a woman is sitting with just her legs crossed, and her arms resting
on her lap, or on the arm rests, she is expressing an open body position.
She may have crossed her legs to be sexy – to show off more of her thigh
and to express invitation. If she is holding her knee and leaning forward,
she is showing interest. If she turns her body towards the person beside
her, she is definitely showing interest in that person.
When a woman is seated with her legs crossed AND her arms crossed – walk
away. She is not in a receptive body position. Wait until she relaxes.
Otherwise, she will probably be a very difficult woman to open up. Another
defensive position is when she tightly holds her hands on her lap, and her
ankles are crossed.
Obvious Flirting Behavior
Even if you aren’t very good at reading body positions, you can’t go wrong
if you notice some or all of the following behavior:
She may tilt her head to one side, or looks at you then looks down,
which indicates submission;
She may run her fingers through her hair;
She may straighten her clothing or adjust in her seat;
She may touch her face, neck, or rub her hand on her own leg.
All these gestures indicate a desire to look attractive. Women are always
showing men signs of interest, but so many men just don’t know how to read
them! You need to observe women and, using this book as a guide, learn to
interpret their body positions and gestures. When a woman shows signs of
interest you need to be confident with your approach, and that she will
accept your advances, and move toward her.
If you are more interested in learning how to interpret a woman’s body
language there are numerous books written on just that. It is an extensive
subject – one worth reading up on! The more you know about how women
convey their feelings, the better you can communicate with them.
Physical Contact
If you are like every man I know, you want to become physical with the
woman you are advancing upon. You must not move too quickly, though. The
woman will show signs of interest, you will start a conversation, and then
you can inadvertently touch her. A soft, subtle touch can make a woman
feel at ease with you. You will reassure her that you are a nice, gentle
person.
The best way to initiate physical contact with a woman is to
"accidentally" touch her. Any indirect contact will do – if you are
standing, stand close so your arms touch, or if you are sitting, sit close
enough so that your legs touch. If she allows or returns the contact, then
you are okay to continue. Once you establish your first physical contact
you should continue to touch her. It lets her know that you are definitely
interested, and you don’t want her to get away.
Often, men lose out with women because they DON’T touch her enough. Men
often hesitate touching too much for fear of scaring her away, but women
think that he is not totally interested in her. This is a simple
miscommunication that you can easily avoid. Touch her. If she pulls away
then you should give her some more time to get comfortable with you. You
don’t want to come on too strong, or you might offend her.
Take the initiative to be close,but let the woman dictate how much, how
fast.
If you feel that the chemistry between you is building quickly and you
feel the desire to kiss her, look deep into her eyes. Stand close enough
so that you can touch her cheek, and pull yourself against her. Wait to
see her reaction. If she pulls away then she is not ready to be kissed. If
she returns the closeness and doesn’t pull or turn away, kiss her softly.
Make sure you don’t give her a wet, sloppy kiss. Women hate that! If a
woman wants to be kissed, she will position herself in front of you.
Knowing just when to initiate physical contact, or when to kiss her, takes
practice. You can practice touching people inadvertently throughout the
day, but the best practice will be with women.
Ensure Success Tonight
Now that you know about women’s behavior and body language, you need to
know how to find the woman who is looking for the same thing you are – to
meet someone tonight. This woman will be looking hot and desirable.
Typically, she will wear clothes that show off her female form. She may
draw attention to her breasts or legs. She may wear a tight skirt or top
to show off her feminine curves. This woman wants to look her best so that
she will attract male attention. She knows that she looks hot, and she has
probably only one thing on her mind – to find a sexual partner.
A woman looking to meet a man will express open body language, and she
will be watching every man in the room. She is looking to choose the lucky
guy who gets to take her home tonight. Despite her outspoken body
language, you should always follow the points in this chapter – make eye
contact and flirt with her before approaching her. Instead of looking deep
into her eyes, you could play with her a little and undress her with your
eyes. A woman with the goal of a one-night stand will appreciate this
gesture, and the chemistry will spark! This woman is sending out obvious
signals of interest. Now that you know even the slightest body suggestions
you can pick up on her obvious desires. You can be the lucky guy who
attracts her attention using your own body language and takes her home!
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