Chapter 5: How To Seduce Women
Once you find a woman you’d like to approach, you must know how to make
initial contact with her. Once you achieve recognition, you have to be
able to read her signals – do you continue your approach? Or do you take
the red flag and get out of the game? This chapter is devoted to helping
you learn the best strategy for approaching a woman. I will define the
entire process, from initial contact and flirting, through conversation,
touching, and to the bedroom. This chapter will lay the foundation for the
more detailed discussions in the following chapters about specific
flirting techniques (Chapter 7), how to initiate a conversation with a
woman (Chapter 9), and what to say to a woman (Chapters 8, 9 & 10).
The seduction process can be broken down into three main stages. Each of
these progressions – Recognition and Flirting, Conversation, and Chemistry
– will be described for you in this chapter. As you read about each step,
keep in mind that you must lead the woman through the seduction process.
She ultimately gives the approval, but you maintain control. Understanding
these methods will allow you to easily incorporate your existing knowledge
and skills into the more advanced topics in later chapters.
Stage 1: Recognition and Flirting
Objective: Find Her, Acknowledge Her, Interpret Her Response
This stage is includes checking out your surroundings, observing all the
potential target women, and deciding which woman you would like to pick
up. Once you decide whom you will target, you must let her know that you
are interested. You can do this by making eye contact with her, smiling at
her, or giving her a little nod. Then, you must get a response from her.
She will likely smile, raise her eyebrows or return the eye contact. Once
you receive acknowledgement from her, you will subconsciously start making
subtle body movements. These gestures include running your fingers through
our hair, stretching, repositioning your self in your chair, touching your
face, or adjusting your clothing. You may not even notice your movements –
don’t worry about it! This behavior is usually a sign of anxiety and your
apprehension of actually meeting her and talking to her. Some women may
notice your body language, and those who do will find it appealing. It
gives a woman indication that you intend to approach her.
After the initial response, you must improve your chances of getting
further recognition from her. Chapter 7 goes into more detail about using
and reading body language. What you read here are just the basics. Make
sure you are in her line of vision. Adjust your position in the room so
that you are facing her. Then subtly scan the room and, without looking AT
her, try to catch her eye for another moment of eye contact. Now it is up
to her to either discourage you or encourage you. She will either show
interest, or she will turn away from you. If she turns away, cut your
losses and move on to the next woman you find attractive. Don’t waste your
time on a woman who isn’t interested. If she smiles at you, or moves
towards you, this means she is interested. If she makes eye contact with
you, be sure to smile! It conveys the message that you are interested, and
you would like to meet her. Watch her body language for subtle gestures of
encouragement – anything from fidgeting with her glass, looking down, or
touching her face or hair. Any of this behavior indicates that she wants
to meet you. She is inviting you with her body language. Keep in mind that
women know quite well how to reject men. If she smiles at you or makes an
effort to straighten her appearance then she is definitely sending you a
signal of approval. Remember: You lead, so take the initiative and go over
and say something to her.
Stage 2: Conversation
Objective: Approach Her, Talk to Her, Make Arrangements to See Her Again
From this point onwards, your success lies in your ability to verbally
communicate with your targeted woman. She has already given you approval
to approach her, now you have a chance to win her approval to see her
again. The best way to be successful in the stage is to just go ahead and
do it! The more you think about what you will say, or how she might react,
the more you worry about going over to her and talking to her. Keep in
mind you have absolutely nothing to lose!
You already know the importance of action. Now is the perfect time to
execute initiative. Walk over to your targeted woman. If a woman sees you
walking confidently towards her she will recognize that you are a
self-assured man. At this point, you need to say something to her. All you
need to do is break the ice, then she will reply and a conversation is
ignited. What to say to women and how to approach them is discussed at
length in Chapters 8 and 9. Also in Chapter 8 you will find out what vital
information you must get from your conversation with a woman.
During this stage, there should be more eye contact, and continuing body
language. You may notice that your gestures reflect hers, or vice versa.
This is a sign that you are becoming comfortable with the conversation and
a connection is being made. With this positive behavior, you should either
ask for her number so that you can call her, or set up a time and place to
meet again. (Chapter 10 discusses how to date women, and what to say to
them before and during your dates.)
It will take practice to become comfortable approaching women, but with
time and experience, you will soon find out what techniques work best for
you.
Stage 3: Chemistry
Objective: Physical Contact
This stage is based on creating a connection with a woman. She has to
trust you, and be able to communicate with you. This connection can be
made in seconds, or it might take a few dates, or it may never happen. In
Chapter 11 you will learn effective techniques for building this
connection.
Once you create sexual chemistry with a women you desire, then you will
have no problem finding the opportunity to get closer to her. There will
be the urge for physical contact with the woman. Likely examples are
brushing against each other, touching legs under the table, or touching
shoulders if you are sitting beside one another. While walking, you want
to touch her waist or her back, or hold her hand. This behavior often
develops after a couple of dates, if not sooner, and almost always leads
to kissing and cuddling.
Once you get a woman into this stage, it’s just a matter of
timing and charm before you get her into your bed.
These three stages of seduction are the basis for the remaining chapters
in this book. The following chapters offer more detailed information, and
many useful suggestions for making the seduction process easier.
Once you find a woman you’d like to approach, you must know how to make
initial contact with her. Once you achieve recognition, you have to be
able to read her signals – do you continue your approach? Or do you take
the red flag and get out of the game? This chapter is devoted to helping
you learn the best strategy for approaching a woman. I will define the
entire process, from initial contact and flirting, through conversation,
touching, and to the bedroom. This chapter will lay the foundation for the
more detailed discussions in the following chapters about specific
flirting techniques (Chapter 7), how to initiate a conversation with a
woman (Chapter 9), and what to say to a woman (Chapters 8, 9 & 10).
The seduction process can be broken down into three main stages. Each of
these progressions – Recognition and Flirting, Conversation, and Chemistry
– will be described for you in this chapter. As you read about each step,
keep in mind that you must lead the woman through the seduction process.
She ultimately gives the approval, but you maintain control. Understanding
these methods will allow you to easily incorporate your existing knowledge
and skills into the more advanced topics in later chapters.
Stage 1: Recognition and Flirting
Objective: Find Her, Acknowledge Her, Interpret Her Response
This stage is includes checking out your surroundings, observing all the
potential target women, and deciding which woman you would like to pick
up. Once you decide whom you will target, you must let her know that you
are interested. You can do this by making eye contact with her, smiling at
her, or giving her a little nod. Then, you must get a response from her.
She will likely smile, raise her eyebrows or return the eye contact. Once
you receive acknowledgement from her, you will subconsciously start making
subtle body movements. These gestures include running your fingers through
our hair, stretching, repositioning your self in your chair, touching your
face, or adjusting your clothing. You may not even notice your movements –
don’t worry about it! This behavior is usually a sign of anxiety and your
apprehension of actually meeting her and talking to her. Some women may
notice your body language, and those who do will find it appealing. It
gives a woman indication that you intend to approach her.
After the initial response, you must improve your chances of getting
further recognition from her. Chapter 7 goes into more detail about using
and reading body language. What you read here are just the basics. Make
sure you are in her line of vision. Adjust your position in the room so
that you are facing her. Then subtly scan the room and, without looking AT
her, try to catch her eye for another moment of eye contact. Now it is up
to her to either discourage you or encourage you. She will either show
interest, or she will turn away from you. If she turns away, cut your
losses and move on to the next woman you find attractive. Don’t waste your
time on a woman who isn’t interested. If she smiles at you, or moves
towards you, this means she is interested. If she makes eye contact with
you, be sure to smile! It conveys the message that you are interested, and
you would like to meet her. Watch her body language for subtle gestures of
encouragement – anything from fidgeting with her glass, looking down, or
touching her face or hair. Any of this behavior indicates that she wants
to meet you. She is inviting you with her body language. Keep in mind that
women know quite well how to reject men. If she smiles at you or makes an
effort to straighten her appearance then she is definitely sending you a
signal of approval. Remember: You lead, so take the initiative and go over
and say something to her.
Stage 2: Conversation
Objective: Approach Her, Talk to Her, Make Arrangements to See Her Again
From this point onwards, your success lies in your ability to verbally
communicate with your targeted woman. She has already given you approval
to approach her, now you have a chance to win her approval to see her
again. The best way to be successful in the stage is to just go ahead and
do it! The more you think about what you will say, or how she might react,
the more you worry about going over to her and talking to her. Keep in
mind you have absolutely nothing to lose!
You already know the importance of action. Now is the perfect time to
execute initiative. Walk over to your targeted woman. If a woman sees you
walking confidently towards her she will recognize that you are a
self-assured man. At this point, you need to say something to her. All you
need to do is break the ice, then she will reply and a conversation is
ignited. What to say to women and how to approach them is discussed at
length in Chapters 8 and 9. Also in Chapter 8 you will find out what vital
information you must get from your conversation with a woman.
During this stage, there should be more eye contact, and continuing body
language. You may notice that your gestures reflect hers, or vice versa.
This is a sign that you are becoming comfortable with the conversation and
a connection is being made. With this positive behavior, you should either
ask for her number so that you can call her, or set up a time and place to
meet again. (Chapter 10 discusses how to date women, and what to say to
them before and during your dates.)
It will take practice to become comfortable approaching women, but with
time and experience, you will soon find out what techniques work best for
you.
Stage 3: Chemistry
Objective: Physical Contact
This stage is based on creating a connection with a woman. She has to
trust you, and be able to communicate with you. This connection can be
made in seconds, or it might take a few dates, or it may never happen. In
Chapter 11 you will learn effective techniques for building this
connection.
Once you create sexual chemistry with a women you desire, then you will
have no problem finding the opportunity to get closer to her. There will
be the urge for physical contact with the woman. Likely examples are
brushing against each other, touching legs under the table, or touching
shoulders if you are sitting beside one another. While walking, you want
to touch her waist or her back, or hold her hand. This behavior often
develops after a couple of dates, if not sooner, and almost always leads
to kissing and cuddling.
Once you get a woman into this stage, it’s just a matter of
timing and charm before you get her into your bed.
These three stages of seduction are the basis for the remaining chapters
in this book. The following chapters offer more detailed information, and
many useful suggestions for making the seduction process easier.
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