Chapter 1: Who You Are And Who You Want
You deserve the best woman out there for you. If you are like most guys I
know, you don’t have her yet. This means You Need a Plan. You may need a
plan to find a woman, to improve your current girlfriend, or to replace
the woman you have. Any woman you’re with should bring out the best in
you, love you, accept you, share the good times and stand by you through
the bad times. Don’t settle for a second-rate girlfriend – be with a woman
who makes you feel like a God!
For you to find a woman with all the qualities you want, you first have to
know about yourself. I guarantee that if you know yourself, and what you
want, women will be eager to be with you. If you carry yourself with
confidence and show women that you are secure you will immediately attract
women and capture their attention. This chapter will lay the foundation
for your future success with any woman you want.
Knowing who you are and what you want exudes personal power.
You must figure out your game plan to get the woman you want.
With this in mind pay close attention and don’t rush though this chapter.
There will be plenty of time in later chapters for learning everything you
need to know about approaching, talking to and seducing women. Be patient
and learn first about yourself. Once you know who you are, and what you
want, you will be better equipped to look at what kinds of women you would
likely connect with. We will then derive a description of her and a list
of requirements she must fulfill before you give her further
consideration. You should not be wasting time with unworthy women. This
chapter is intended to get you focused on you, your personal goals, and
the woman of your dreams.
Collect Information
Have you ever seen a picture of a well-dressed guy in a magazine and
thought you’d like to look like him? Or of a woman you could see yourself
being with? Well, all these pictures, photos, advertisements, need to be
collected and saved! Use these images as incentives to realize your goals.
Imagine yourself looking that good, or with that perfect woman. As well,
cut out articles or ads for singles events, or of places you might like to
go for a date. Collect any inspiring pictures as a way to visualize your
objectives and remain focused. When the time comes for a date with an
amazing woman, use the ads to create an exciting date filled with
adventure and fun!
As you read through this chapter you will be asking yourself several
questions about you and the type of woman you want. You will benefit more
from this chapter if you write down the answers to all the upcoming
questions. You’re going to be referring to your self-analysis many times
in the upcoming pages. In order to become proficient at picking up and
seducing women, you’re going to change and grow. By writing this stuff
down you’ll have means to measure your progress, evaluate your results and
learn from your mistakes. Keep your written work together with your
collected pictures and/or advertisements in a folder or notebook. Your
written record of your personal and dating progress will mark where you
started, how you’re doing and where you’re going.
The Future is in Your Hands
Nothing about meeting an attractive woman and winning her favor is luck.
You are in charge of your life. Where you are and who your friends are is
a direct result of your life choices. The people you know are people you
have attracted. You create these relationships, consciously or not, and
you have the control to build new and better relationships right now. In
fact, you can even decide what kinds of women you’ll be meeting and dating
before you actually meet them! Simply by first knowing who you are and
then by describing the kind of woman you want, you’re going to put
together a plan you can follow for tangible results. Don’t leave things to
chance or luck. You are responsible for the opportunities that come to you
in your life.
Everything that happens to you
is directly related to your choices in life.
If you rely on an uncontrollable imaginary force (such as luck, or chance)
you will be giving up the power to take your life into your own hands. You
should become personally accountable for all you experience – good and bad
– so make sure you engineer your choices to reflect your goals and
objectives. Every decision you make will have subtle or considerable
effects on your life. Be sure you stay focused on what you want and you
will be happy.
Who Are You?
This is the time to start thinking about Who You Are. This section will
help you to figure out who you are, and what you have to offer a woman.
First step: describe yourself. What would you say? Well, a good start is a
physical description. So that’s what you will do now.
Get a pen and start writing.
Write a physical description of yourself. Include your age, height,
weight, physical build, and personality. Be sure to describe who you ARE,
and not who you think you are, or who you think you should be. Build a
realistic description of who YOU are and what you represent. Be honest
with yourself, and go with your first impulses. Don’t leave out your
weaknesses, but also be positive and look for your strong points. Don’t
risk compromising your self-expression and confidence by only listing out
all your inadequacies and hang-ups. Such a list is self-defeating, whereas
focusing on your positive traits will make you feel better about who you
are; and when you feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more relaxed and
confident around women, too. Women sense this, and they’ll feel good being
around you.
Take a look at these questions. Answer them honestly.
Are you reliable, honest, funny, educated, shy or outgoing, practical or
uninhibited?
Do you have a large social group of friends and co-workers, or do you
like to spend time with just one or two important people?
What have your past relationships with women been like? Who ends them?
Why?
What is your current financial status?
What are your religious and political views?
What beliefs and values do you live by?
Now, this next group of questions is more important. You should spend a
little more time on your answers.
What activities do you enjoy?
What are you interested in?
What are your hobbies, if any?
Are you happy in your career, or would you like to learn new skills and
change jobs?
Who or what would you like to become?
If you could do anything to spend your time, what would you choose to
do?
Write this down while the ideas are spontaneous and instinctual. Your
first impulses are more likely to be the truth. The more you think about
your answers the more likely it will be something you think you should
write, not the truth. Don’t cheat yourself – you’ll be using this analysis
to increase your chances of getting the woman of your dreams. Of course,
you can always go back and add more ideas to your notes later.
Focus on What You Want
What you think about and focus on is, inevitably, what you are going to
get out of life. You have to think about new ideas, new goals and new
women, or your mind and behavior will exhibit the old ideas, patterns and
people. If you don’t focus on and visualize the woman of your dreams and
imagine ways of meeting her all the time, then you’ll probably end up
meeting someone who resembles your last girlfriend, or worse!
Avoid thinking about what you don’t want. If you think about not wanting a
boring lazy woman, and you focus on that, chances are you’ll be meeting
more of them than any other kind of woman.
You must FOCUS on what you WANT
in order to GET what you WANT.
This applies to all aspects of your life – not just women. If you just
focus on obstacles you come across, instead of your ultimate goals, you’ll
continue to have setbacks! You have to focus and think about what you want
all the time.
Define Your Desires
Now we find out what kind of woman you are really looking for. Start by
writing down a detailed and realistic physical description of her. Is she
tall or short? Thin or big-boned? Does she have short or long hair? Is she
sexy, exotic, and alluring? Is she the girl-next-door type? Does she have
a casual appearance or a smart and sophisticated look? Be sure to go for
what you want. Write down what body type you would prefer to take to bed.
What will get you excited? What kind of woman turns you on? What traits do
you look for in a woman? Does she have slim long legs or curvy hips and
thighs? Is she in a certain age group? Does she work out regularly?
Athletic? Consider everything you can think of!
Now what personality type does your dream woman have? Is she outgoing or
shy? Does she love to go out and socialize, or is she more of a homebody
type that loves to cook and sew? Is she a lady or a tramp? Or a little of
both? Write down anything you WANT. What are her music and food
preferences? Does she like sporting events? Nightclubs? Traveling?
Shopping? Does she like animals? Children? Does she have any children?
Does she have a career? Is she a student?
You are going to find definite traits and requirements that you’re looking
for in a woman. Don’t feel shy, or guilty, about these requirements. Never
feel ashamed for who you are and for what you want. There are many kinds
of women out there, and many of them will meet your demands. You need to
decide your minimum requirements. You also need to figure out which
qualities or attributes you are willing to compromise.
As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your
ideal woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what
you want, even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive
direction. By knowing what you want, you’ll be able to eliminate
undesirable types of women. You want to meet and get women you desire with
little hassles or wasted efforts.
So that’s the end of this chapter. If you have answered the questions
honestly you should know more about who you are, and what you are looking
for. I’ll bet that if you look over your analysis you’ll find that the
woman you want has similar physical and personality traits as yourself. No
doubt she shares similar interests and values, and she probably likes guys
like you. The information gathered here will be used later on to advance
your plan to pick up and seduce the woman (or women!) of your dreams.
If you have not yet gone through and answered the questions in this
chapter – in writing! – then STOP whatever you’re doing and answer them
NOW! It is in your own best interest to know who you are and what you
want. Chapter 3 talks about what women want, so you need to know what you
have going for and what you might have to change to become more attractive
and approachable to women.
You deserve the best woman out there for you. If you are like most guys I
know, you don’t have her yet. This means You Need a Plan. You may need a
plan to find a woman, to improve your current girlfriend, or to replace
the woman you have. Any woman you’re with should bring out the best in
you, love you, accept you, share the good times and stand by you through
the bad times. Don’t settle for a second-rate girlfriend – be with a woman
who makes you feel like a God!
For you to find a woman with all the qualities you want, you first have to
know about yourself. I guarantee that if you know yourself, and what you
want, women will be eager to be with you. If you carry yourself with
confidence and show women that you are secure you will immediately attract
women and capture their attention. This chapter will lay the foundation
for your future success with any woman you want.
Knowing who you are and what you want exudes personal power.
You must figure out your game plan to get the woman you want.
With this in mind pay close attention and don’t rush though this chapter.
There will be plenty of time in later chapters for learning everything you
need to know about approaching, talking to and seducing women. Be patient
and learn first about yourself. Once you know who you are, and what you
want, you will be better equipped to look at what kinds of women you would
likely connect with. We will then derive a description of her and a list
of requirements she must fulfill before you give her further
consideration. You should not be wasting time with unworthy women. This
chapter is intended to get you focused on you, your personal goals, and
the woman of your dreams.
Collect Information
Have you ever seen a picture of a well-dressed guy in a magazine and
thought you’d like to look like him? Or of a woman you could see yourself
being with? Well, all these pictures, photos, advertisements, need to be
collected and saved! Use these images as incentives to realize your goals.
Imagine yourself looking that good, or with that perfect woman. As well,
cut out articles or ads for singles events, or of places you might like to
go for a date. Collect any inspiring pictures as a way to visualize your
objectives and remain focused. When the time comes for a date with an
amazing woman, use the ads to create an exciting date filled with
adventure and fun!
As you read through this chapter you will be asking yourself several
questions about you and the type of woman you want. You will benefit more
from this chapter if you write down the answers to all the upcoming
questions. You’re going to be referring to your self-analysis many times
in the upcoming pages. In order to become proficient at picking up and
seducing women, you’re going to change and grow. By writing this stuff
down you’ll have means to measure your progress, evaluate your results and
learn from your mistakes. Keep your written work together with your
collected pictures and/or advertisements in a folder or notebook. Your
written record of your personal and dating progress will mark where you
started, how you’re doing and where you’re going.
The Future is in Your Hands
Nothing about meeting an attractive woman and winning her favor is luck.
You are in charge of your life. Where you are and who your friends are is
a direct result of your life choices. The people you know are people you
have attracted. You create these relationships, consciously or not, and
you have the control to build new and better relationships right now. In
fact, you can even decide what kinds of women you’ll be meeting and dating
before you actually meet them! Simply by first knowing who you are and
then by describing the kind of woman you want, you’re going to put
together a plan you can follow for tangible results. Don’t leave things to
chance or luck. You are responsible for the opportunities that come to you
in your life.
Everything that happens to you
is directly related to your choices in life.
If you rely on an uncontrollable imaginary force (such as luck, or chance)
you will be giving up the power to take your life into your own hands. You
should become personally accountable for all you experience – good and bad
– so make sure you engineer your choices to reflect your goals and
objectives. Every decision you make will have subtle or considerable
effects on your life. Be sure you stay focused on what you want and you
will be happy.
Who Are You?
This is the time to start thinking about Who You Are. This section will
help you to figure out who you are, and what you have to offer a woman.
First step: describe yourself. What would you say? Well, a good start is a
physical description. So that’s what you will do now.
Get a pen and start writing.
Write a physical description of yourself. Include your age, height,
weight, physical build, and personality. Be sure to describe who you ARE,
and not who you think you are, or who you think you should be. Build a
realistic description of who YOU are and what you represent. Be honest
with yourself, and go with your first impulses. Don’t leave out your
weaknesses, but also be positive and look for your strong points. Don’t
risk compromising your self-expression and confidence by only listing out
all your inadequacies and hang-ups. Such a list is self-defeating, whereas
focusing on your positive traits will make you feel better about who you
are; and when you feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more relaxed and
confident around women, too. Women sense this, and they’ll feel good being
around you.
Take a look at these questions. Answer them honestly.
Are you reliable, honest, funny, educated, shy or outgoing, practical or
uninhibited?
Do you have a large social group of friends and co-workers, or do you
like to spend time with just one or two important people?
What have your past relationships with women been like? Who ends them?
Why?
What is your current financial status?
What are your religious and political views?
What beliefs and values do you live by?
Now, this next group of questions is more important. You should spend a
little more time on your answers.
What activities do you enjoy?
What are you interested in?
What are your hobbies, if any?
Are you happy in your career, or would you like to learn new skills and
change jobs?
Who or what would you like to become?
If you could do anything to spend your time, what would you choose to
do?
Write this down while the ideas are spontaneous and instinctual. Your
first impulses are more likely to be the truth. The more you think about
your answers the more likely it will be something you think you should
write, not the truth. Don’t cheat yourself – you’ll be using this analysis
to increase your chances of getting the woman of your dreams. Of course,
you can always go back and add more ideas to your notes later.
Focus on What You Want
What you think about and focus on is, inevitably, what you are going to
get out of life. You have to think about new ideas, new goals and new
women, or your mind and behavior will exhibit the old ideas, patterns and
people. If you don’t focus on and visualize the woman of your dreams and
imagine ways of meeting her all the time, then you’ll probably end up
meeting someone who resembles your last girlfriend, or worse!
Avoid thinking about what you don’t want. If you think about not wanting a
boring lazy woman, and you focus on that, chances are you’ll be meeting
more of them than any other kind of woman.
You must FOCUS on what you WANT
in order to GET what you WANT.
This applies to all aspects of your life – not just women. If you just
focus on obstacles you come across, instead of your ultimate goals, you’ll
continue to have setbacks! You have to focus and think about what you want
all the time.
Define Your Desires
Now we find out what kind of woman you are really looking for. Start by
writing down a detailed and realistic physical description of her. Is she
tall or short? Thin or big-boned? Does she have short or long hair? Is she
sexy, exotic, and alluring? Is she the girl-next-door type? Does she have
a casual appearance or a smart and sophisticated look? Be sure to go for
what you want. Write down what body type you would prefer to take to bed.
What will get you excited? What kind of woman turns you on? What traits do
you look for in a woman? Does she have slim long legs or curvy hips and
thighs? Is she in a certain age group? Does she work out regularly?
Athletic? Consider everything you can think of!
Now what personality type does your dream woman have? Is she outgoing or
shy? Does she love to go out and socialize, or is she more of a homebody
type that loves to cook and sew? Is she a lady or a tramp? Or a little of
both? Write down anything you WANT. What are her music and food
preferences? Does she like sporting events? Nightclubs? Traveling?
Shopping? Does she like animals? Children? Does she have any children?
Does she have a career? Is she a student?
You are going to find definite traits and requirements that you’re looking
for in a woman. Don’t feel shy, or guilty, about these requirements. Never
feel ashamed for who you are and for what you want. There are many kinds
of women out there, and many of them will meet your demands. You need to
decide your minimum requirements. You also need to figure out which
qualities or attributes you are willing to compromise.
As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your
ideal woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what
you want, even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive
direction. By knowing what you want, you’ll be able to eliminate
undesirable types of women. You want to meet and get women you desire with
little hassles or wasted efforts.
So that’s the end of this chapter. If you have answered the questions
honestly you should know more about who you are, and what you are looking
for. I’ll bet that if you look over your analysis you’ll find that the
woman you want has similar physical and personality traits as yourself. No
doubt she shares similar interests and values, and she probably likes guys
like you. The information gathered here will be used later on to advance
your plan to pick up and seduce the woman (or women!) of your dreams.
If you have not yet gone through and answered the questions in this
chapter – in writing! – then STOP whatever you’re doing and answer them
NOW! It is in your own best interest to know who you are and what you
want. Chapter 3 talks about what women want, so you need to know what you
have going for and what you might have to change to become more attractive
and approachable to women.
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